Her Husband’s Having An Emotional Affair With His Female Coworker, And She Thinks It’s Just As Bad As If He’d Physically Cheated On Her
This 41-year-old woman and her husband, who’s 43, have been married for 12 years now, and she always thought their marriage was solid.
Sure, they’ve had some ups and downs, particularly when her husband lost his job a couple of years ago, and they were forced to reel in their spending while raising their two children.
“We’ve also dealt with some health scares with our youngest, and that really tested us,” she recalled.
“But we got through it by supporting each other. Honestly, we’ve always been good at teamwork and facing challenges together.”
Despite that, she has recently started to notice some growing distance between her and her husband.
For instance, he’s suddenly begun spending a lot more time on his cell phone, especially at night, which is a red flag to her. They used to have an “unspoken rule” about not using devices during family time.
Now, though, her husband is constantly texting, regardless of if they’re eating dinner or trying to spend time together.
She noticed he was texting one female coworker quite a lot as well. He’d mentioned his coworker before since she’s part of his team, and she didn’t think much of it at the time.
However, their text conversations have become much more frequent and continue late at night, which set off alarm bells in her head.
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“I’d see her name pop up on his phone when he’d leave it on the kitchen counter, even when it wasn’t during work hours,” she detailed.
“And when I asked, he brushed it off, saying they’re just talking about work, and I’m being paranoid.”
Well, just the other night, her curiosity finally got the better of her. It all began after her husband left his phone out while charging, and she saw a message from his female coworker pop up on the screen. She swears that she wasn’t snooping. Instead, the text was “hard to miss.”
“It wasn’t about work at all. It was personal, and they were talking about their feelings,” she revealed.
“He told her that she ‘gets him’ in a way no one else does, and that hit me hard.”
She confronted her husband, too, and he claimed their relationship was purely platonic. He promised nothing physical had happened between him and his coworker, and he accused her of overreacting.
She, on the other hand, feels extremely betrayed because her husband is emotionally connecting with his coworker, and they haven’t done that in their own relationship in a very long time.
“And every time he’s on his phone now, I’m anxious, wondering if he’s talking to her again,” she vented.
She also believes that her husband having an emotional affair is just as bad as if he would’ve cheated on her physically. Still, she’s not sure if that’s valid or if she’s being overdramatic.
Does infidelity have to involve hookups, or can affairs be just as hurtful without them? What advice would you give her?
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