She Doesn’t Want Her Boyfriend To See His Ex-Girlfriend At His High School Reunion Because He Often Compares Them, And It Makes Her Really Insecure
This 28-year-old woman and her boyfriend, who’s 30, have been dating for nearly two years, and their relationship is great for the most part. She has only one issue: her boyfriend’s ex-girlfriend from high school, Lily.
Lily was his first love, and even though they split up a long time ago, her boyfriend still talks about his ex from time to time.
“It’s always small stuff like how she had ‘great taste in music’ or how ‘no one’s ever matched their connection,'” she explained.
“He doesn’t seem to realize how much it bothers me, and I hate feeling like I’m always competing with a memory.”
So, when her boyfriend recently brought up how he was planning to attend his high school reunion, she got a major pit in her stomach. She knows that Lily will be there, and she can’t help but feel very insecure.
She knows that their breakup is so far in the past, but she’s still worried that seeing Lily might stir up some old feelings.
She tried telling her boyfriend that she was uncomfortable with him attending the reunion, too, particularly if Lily was going to be there. She also suggested that they go to the event together, but he immediately shot her idea down.
Her boyfriend claimed the reunion was “just for old classmates” and that he didn’t want to be “that guy who brings his girlfriend to a reunion.”
Then, when she reiterated how uncomfortable she felt, he just accused her of being controlling and insecure. Her boyfriend even stated it was “ridiculous” of her to be jealous of a girl from high school.
Andrey_Arkusha – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
She admitted that she wasn’t proud of her feelings.
“But it’s hard to ignore when he’s made Lily sound almost like some idealized version of what he wants,” she reasoned.
“I get that people have history, but when your partner’s history involves frequent comparisons, it’s tough.”
Once, her boyfriend actually joked about how if he and Lily had stayed together, they probably would’ve tied the knot already. He laughed off the so-called “joke,” but she didn’t find it funny whatsoever.
This, along with the other remarks he’s made, has left her on edge. Her boyfriend, on the other hand, thinks she just needs to trust him.
And she’s genuinely upset that he seems to be prioritizing “nostalgia” for Lily over her emotions as his girlfriend.
“I want him to understand that this isn’t just ‘jealousy’ but a real insecurity that his comments have fed into over time,” she vented.
Still, she’s not sure if she is being unfair here and whether trusting her boyfriend really is the best thing to do.
How would you handle this situation in her shoes? Should her boyfriend care more about making her comfortable than seeing Lily again?
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