She Brought Her Therapist Friend On A First Date With Her, And The Guy Mansplained Manifestation
It’s always wise to tell your friends about a first date you might be going on if you’re meeting someone you don’t actually know.
TikToker Lisandra Vazquez, who goes by @lisandravcomedy, took things a step further and decided to bring her therapist friend on a recent first date with her because she says that’s how bad things are out there right now.
Lisandra met a guy on a dating app who’s a DJ, and she informed him that she would be bringing her friend along on their date.
“She’s just going to come and make sure that you’re not crazy,” Lisandra told her date, reassuring him her friend would probably leave after one drink.
Her date picked out a very loud sports bar, which she thought was the worst place to try to get to know someone, but it was conveniently located close to a venue Lisandra was at beforehand, so that worked.
It didn’t take long for red flags to start popping up, and the first one was when Lisandra’s date began to mansplain manifestation to her.
He then said many women in Chicago don’t have the same “high vibration” that she does. She thought it was bizarre, but then he kept on explaining things like meditation and mudras.
He mentioned that perhaps she didn’t like the bar since it was so loud, so he suggested they head over to his friend’s bar, and Lisandra agreed.
Lisandra and her friend climbed into this guy’s two-seater car, and off they went to bar number two, which was shockingly a “loud frat bar.”
olly – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
“Like it’s no better than the place that we were at, but for the plot we went,” Lisandra said. She turned around and told her friend they would have one drink and then get the heck out of there.
After they ordered drinks, Lisandra’s date sat down next to her and put his hand on her leg without asking if it was ok first.
She instantly felt uncomfortable, so she excused herself to the bathroom to escape. Upon returning, she picked a chair not located next to her date, hoping to avoid more unwanted contact.
When Lisandra’s friend then went to the bathroom, Lisandra’s date looked up from his hissy fit of texting to confront her over her changing vibe.
She politely told her date that his putting his hand on her leg made her feel uneasy, but her date argued women like when he does that.
She pointed out to her date that not every woman wants physical contact on date one, which seemed to go over well with him, but then he suggested a third bar.
Lisandra and her friend said yes to the third bar, and away they went while Lisandra whispered to her friend that she hated the guy.
“The way that he kept explaining just how his manifestations and stuff like that work – I was just like, this guy is a nightmare because he was using therapy language to try to manipulate me essentially to do whatever he wanted,” Lisandra explained.
So, while Lisandra was not having a nice time, her date actually was. He told her in the third bar that he could see them being a thing, but he wanted to know how a relationship could work between them, given Lisandra’s travel schedule and the fact that women throw themselves at him constantly since he’s a DJ.
“I know I’m not interested, but I love a hypothetical discussion,” Lisandra clarified.
Shockingly, Lisandra’s date asked her to tell him about her five-year plan after that. Lisandra’s a comedian, so she replied that her profession is her five-year plan.
Her date had only ever heard of one comedian, Dave Chappelle, which Lisandra equates to saying your favorite band is Coldplay. Not original.
Lisandra shut down her date trying to help her with her career by politely reminding him that he doesn’t know anything about it, so he pivoted and mentioned he’s good with branding and business plans in case she wants his help that way.
Lisandra called herself a ride home, thanked her date, grabbed her friend, and left. Her date unmatched her on the app where they met, but not before messaging her to say she clearly wasn’t interested in him, but it was nice to know her.
Lisandra concludes her video by stating it seemed like this guy was trying to reject her before she could ultimately reject him with his message and unmatching.
“I think what was fascinating was witnessing a man throw a tantrum because he didn’t get his way.”
What do you think about her date?
@lisandravcomedy So much I left out but wow what a time to be a woman in dating culture. #datingstorytime #baddate #tinderdate
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