Having A Child Made Her Realize Her Husband Is A Selfish Slacker, And She Feels Used
This woman wants you to know that she really does love her husband, and he’s a great dad, but having a child has made her realize he’s a selfish slacker.
She never noticed this until it meant missing out on her daily life with their little girl because of how lazy and self-centered her husband is.
Her husband works 20 to 25 hours a week, while she works 50. Her husband works for his dad, and his dad is getting older, so he has to retire soon.
Her husband and his dad don’t keep tabs on how much money they make, but it’s not enough to afford to pay her husband’s brother more money to work there or to afford an additional employee, which could help his dad finally retire.
She was hoping that all of this would light a fire under her husband to work harder, but that hasn’t been the result. Instead, her husband is fine skating by.
Since she has to work so hard as the breadwinner, she spends an hour a day with their daughter, and she’s missing out on her growing up.
Her husband gets their daughter ready in the morning, drops her off at daycare, and picks her up between one or three hours before she’s done with work.
When she arrives home, she helps get their daughter ready for bed, and it makes her sob since she doesn’t get to spend a lot of time with her.
Her husband has no interest in working harder or earning more money, which means she can’t get a job closer to their house or take a position that makes less money.
Antonioguillem – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
To her, the future is looking grim. She’s offered to try to help her husband’s family out with their company, but they don’t think she should be involved.
As she watches her husband’s dad struggle more with his health, she knows retirement is on the near horizon.
Her husband continuing his job at the family business is easy money and a “placeholder” in case he ever decides to do something different with his life, but that’s now at risk.
“My husband has worked for his dad 13 years – without any type of financial or logistical planning, I worry what will happen to “the company” when all of a sudden it’s just him,” she explained.
“He physically can’t do it alone and couldn’t afford another outside employee at this rate. I feel…used. Duped. For years, it was “we’re a power couple” because I’ve always worked hard and steadily climbed my career ladder, and he had all the opportunity with his dad’s company, and he just – never did anything? At all?”
“Not even something as simple as organizing their QuickBooks, which are a mess, or attempting to market or even monitor their profit/loss. Are they in the red after a job? Literally, no one knows, but it’ll all shake out by the end of the year.”
Her husband’s family is rich, and his mom’s got a trust fund. Her husband’s dad never felt the need to make his company that successful because of that safety net.
She knows the company can barely support her husband, his dad, and his brother, and it bothers her they don’t want to change this.
She feels like she’s working in order to make sure her husband still has an easy life, and that’s painful.
She’s left wondering what she should do. What advice do you have for her?
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