Her Boyfriend Of Five Years Was Uninvited From Her Sister’s Wedding Since They’re Not Married Yet, And It Feels Like A Slap In The Face To Their Relationship
This 28-year-old woman and her boyfriend, who’s 32, have been dating for nearly five years, and they’ve built a whole life together. They share an apartment and split all of their expenses. They’re even planning to tie the knot in the future.
“He’s been by my side through a lot of major life moments, and he’s become an important part of my family’s life, too,” she explained.
“My parents and siblings know him well, and he’s always been included in family holidays, dinners, and even trips.”
So now that her little 26-year-old sister is getting married in just a few months, it wasn’t a shock that her boyfriend was invited as her plus-one. She figured that was expected, given the fact they’d been in a long-term relationship for a while and how integrated her boyfriend had become in her family.
But then, just last week, her sister called, claimed to be changing the plan for her nuptials, and revealed her boyfriend was actually uninvited.
Her sister suddenly wanted to keep the event small and have only family members there. And her sister stated that, since they weren’t wed, her boyfriend wasn’t “technically” family yet.
She was completely caught off guard by that and tried to talk to her sister about it.
“My boyfriend has always been treated like family by everyone, and I couldn’t understand why he was suddenly being excluded from such a big event. I told her I didn’t think it was fair,” she recalled.
Her sister couldn’t be reasoned with, though, and kept insisting that her boyfriend skipping the wedding would “simplify things.” Apparently, her sister didn’t want to have to explain why he got to attend when they were just dating. Meanwhile, other distant relatives weren’t there.
New Africa – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
Well, she pointed out how she and her boyfriend are long past “just dating” and in a very serious relationship. She also asked whether he’d be invited if they were engaged, yet her sister said no. Her boyfriend would only make the guest list if they were legally married.
She felt like her sister was blatantly disrespecting her relationship, and she decided to put her foot down. She made it clear that she wouldn’t be showing up at her sister’s nuptials unless her boyfriend was allowed to go, too.
Still, this only made her sister angry, and she got accused of causing unnecessary drama and making her sister’s big day all about herself. Her parents have even taken her sister’s side, believing she needs to suck it up and support her sister no matter what.
She obviously loves her sister and genuinely does want to be there for her. However, she can’t stand her boyfriend being left out like that.
“I don’t want to go without him because it feels like a slap in the face to our relationship,” she vented.
“And my boyfriend hasn’t said much. He says he’ll support whatever decision I make, but I can tell he’s hurt, too.”
This has left her wondering whether refusing to attend her sister’s wedding without her boyfriend is the right way to handle the situation or not.
Do people have to tie the knot to be considered family? What would you do in her shoes?
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