He Said His Pregnant Wife Wasn’t Worthy Of A New Car As A Push Present And That She’d Get The Gift Of Parenthood After Having Their Baby
This man and his wife have been together for five years, and she is currently pregnant with their first child.
Just a few days ago, his wife also apparently learned about “push presents” on social media. If you haven’t heard of them, these gifts have been popularized online recently as a way for husbands to say “thank you” to their wives after delivering a baby.
“This concept is, and still seems, very strange to me. I understand seeking appreciation from your husband for what women go through during pregnancy and childbirth, but it’s the materialist part that gave me the ick,” he detailed.
However, his wife did not seem to get the same uncomfortable feeling from the idea.
Instead, after she came across a video on TikTok discussing how women deserve push presents, she forwarded him the post.
The woman in the video was supposedly talking about how spouses should reciprocate sacrifices once their wives give birth, like “an eye for an eye.” So, the woman claimed that husbands should actually get a tattoo on their lower body. Then, wives should also be gifted a home and a car exclusively for themselves.
“I felt that those expectations were very entitled, honestly a little vindictive, envious (the permanent tattoo part), and very over the top for my taste,” he explained.
He thinks both partners make the decision to start a family. And in his own marriage, his wife was never forced to become a mom. She genuinely wanted to be a parent.
That’s why, in response to the TikTok, he just replied with some laughing emojis. He truly believed that his wife had only sent him the post in a satirical way, intended as a joke about how “dumb” the woman seemed for wanting all of that from her husband.
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Well, that was not the case. His wife wound up approaching him and talking about how she wanted a push present of her own. To be clear, she didn’t expect him to get a tattoo or purchase her a house.
However, she did want him to dip into his personal savings account in order to buy her a car specifically for her own use.
“I looked at her, almost shocked, and began laughing. I thought my wife and I had similar views on how extremist people can be, and I was wrong,” he recalled.
His wife, on the other hand, got really irritated that he found the whole thing funny. Then she doubled down and stated she wanted a “real push present.”
He tried to say that her present would be “the gift of parenthood” and welcoming a healthy baby into the world. He also pointed out how, in reality, he’d probably buy her a Mother’s Day card and some jewelry, totaling under $700.
He’s not interested in spending any more money than that, though, and said that if she really wanted another car, it could be theirs to share.
His wife didn’t take kindly to his response and kept pressing him, asking whether she was “worthy enough” of such a big push present.
This finally forced him to share his honest opinion. He admitted that, yes, as his partner and the mother of his child, his wife is “worthy.”
“But she has to be realistic and realize that none of us, individually speaking, is worthy of what she’s asking for. She has to manage her expectations because I don’t see why she feels she deserves that,” he revealed.
In hindsight, he recognizes that his words might have come out wrong because he never meant to dismiss her.
Nonetheless, his wife has been crying about it ever since and refuses to speak to him. He even overheard his wife badmouthing him to her sister on the phone.
“But under no circumstances would I ever consider gifting her a car. I feel bad she is hurting right now, but I don’t feel bad for giving her a reality check,” he vented.
At the same time, he can’t help but wonder if he could’ve handled this situation in a better way.
Was being blunt with his wife the best course of action? Or do you disagree that his wife doesn’t deserve a car as a push present?
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