His Wife Spends All Of Her Free Time In Bed, But He Wants Her To Spend Time With Their Family

Pretty middle aged woman on bed in modern apartment smiling after wake up. Female in bedroom at home
Tatyana Gladskih - stock.adobe.com - illustrative purposes only, not the actual person

Three years ago, this 40-year-old man got married to his wife, who is the same age as him. Now, his wife has forever been the kind of girl who prefers to lie around in bed all day.

When they first started dating though, and even in their early days of marriage, his wife was still happy to go out and participate in different activities along with him.

They went on dates a lot and also took weekend getaways. Then, when his wife got pregnant, she started to spend more time in bed.

Knowing her body was encountering many changes, he let it go and didn’t say anything to his wife about her bed rotting.

“She took months and months off of work and just laid in bed all day,” he explained. “To the point that it had a significant financial impact.”

“We’re both high earners, but she just wasn’t getting paid from taking so much time off. There was an adjustment period after she gave birth.”

Finally, his wife resumed working, but then she started to hate her office setting, and she fell into a depression.

As soon as his wife would come home every day, she would climb into bed and grumble about her job.

It was up to him to complete all of their household chores and parent their child, which overwhelmed him.

Pretty middle aged woman on bed in modern apartment smiling after wake up. Female in bedroom at home

Tatyana Gladskih – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person

His wife stated that she was depressed, and he was sympathetic to her. She did go on medication, but that didn’t make his wife more motivated at home.

In the spring, his wife landed a new job, and although it’s mentally demanding, she’s been thrilled. She quickly overcame her depression and looked forward to heading off to work in the mornings.

His wife gets up, works out, and then goes to her job. She gets home at 4 p.m. or so but then lays down and takes a nap for two hours.

He then wakes her up so they can have dinner together, and his wife gets back in bed at 7:30 p.m., and that’s it. She goes to sleep and wakes up at 6 a.m., and then they start the cycle all over.

On the weekends, when his wife doesn’t have to work, she sleeps until noon. When 1 or 1:30 hits, she needs a nap, and she will snooze until it’s nighttime.

“If there is a time she doesn’t want to nap and wants to watch TV or a movie, she will do it in bed because it’s more comfortable for her than sitting,” he added.

“If we’re not willing to lay in bed with her all day, we get almost no quality time with her. This also leaves me doing the large majority of the housework and parenting.”

“Our daughter wants her constantly, but she tells her mommy wants to lay in bed, so she needs to lay there if she wants to see mommy. An 18-month-old isn’t going to do that.”

He repeatedly asks his wife to spend her free time with their little family, but she claims she has no energy.

He has mentioned to his wife that he has no interest in spending all day in bed with her, but she maintains that this is prime relaxation for her.

Her psychiatrist says she’s fine, so it’s not that she’s still depressed, and while he has pleaded with her to go see a doctor to check her physical health, she won’t do it.

“She said her bedtime is non-negotiable, and I knew this when we got together,” he continued. “But it was never, ever this bad.”

“How do I motivate her to spend time with us? I’m not going to threaten leaving. I don’t see that as a healthy avenue.”

What advice do you have for him?

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