His Friend’s Wife Slept With Multiple Men While They Were Separated, And His Friend Has No Idea, So He Thinks He Should Tell Him The Truth
Separations in marriages are arguably the equivalent of “taking a break” while dating. There aren’t any hard and fast rules, meaning that boundaries tend to blur and vary from couple to couple.
For instance, do you think that spouses should be allowed to see other people while separated but not officially divorced? It’s a pretty divisive question.
One man has found himself in a particularly sticky situation, too, because he knows that his friend’s wife was sleeping with several other men while they were apart, and he doesn’t know if he should spill the beans.
For some context, his friend Steve and his friend’s wife, Jessica, were together for over 10 years and had kids together when they separated a few years ago.
“Their path forward was unclear at that time. She moved out and got her own place,” he recalled.
Then, while Steve and Jessica were living separately, she apparently began sleeping with multiple different men.
The separation didn’t last very long, though, and just a few months later, Steve and Jessica got back together and worked out their issues.
The only problem is that he never knew Steve had no clue about all the guys Jessica had hooked up with during that time period.
He came to this realization while he was talking to Steve a few weeks ago, and he found out his friend thought Jessica had only been with one other man during the separation.
Rido – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
He hasn’t been able to stop thinking about it ever since, and he’s really not sure what to do.
“On the one hand, I don’t want to stir some stuff up unnecessarily. On the other hand, I feel like I’m violating bro code by not telling him,” he explained.
He is perhaps having such a tough time navigating this because, years ago, he was actually in a similar situation.
A girl he’d been seeing at the time betrayed him, and various people in their mutual friend group knew about it. Yet, no one even bothered to tell him.
“The hurt from that sticks with me to this day. In this way, I kind of feel like I can empathize with Steve. I needed somebody to tell me, and nobody did,” he detailed.
Still, he feels like he’s stuck between a rock and a hard place. If he tells Steve the truth, it could break up Steve and Jessica’s family.
“And if I don’t tell Steve, and he eventually finds out and learns that I knew about it, that will very likely be the end of our friendship,” he vented.
Now, he can’t stop wondering what would be the best thing to do.
Do you think he is projecting his past experience onto Steve and Jessica’s relationship? Or does Steve have a right to know?
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