He’s Leaving His Wife Since She Changed Her Mind About Having Kids, And He Doesn’t Want To Sacrifice His Dream Of Becoming A Dad
Saying “I do” at the altar means that you’re signing up to share everything in your life – from living spaces and schedules to future plans and goals – with your spouse.
So, what happens when you get married believing you and your partner are on the same page about a major life decision, only to realize things have changed after tying the knot?
This man has been asking himself the very same question ever since his wife decided she no longer wanted to have kids.
According to him, they always agreed that they hoped to start a family one day throughout their relationship.
“We talked about it extensively before we got married, and it was one of the things that drew us together as a couple,” he said.
Then, things shifted over the past few years, and his wife suddenly had a change of heart.
It all began when she claimed she just wanted to wait a bit longer to have a baby – which he was actually fine with. More recently, though, she admitted that she’s not interested in having kids at all anymore.
The news has left him reeling, too, since becoming a father is something he’s always wanted. He even believes that having children is a “fundamental part” of who he is.
“I love my wife, but I can’t imagine a future without kids,” he revealed.
Kostia – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual people
That’s why he doesn’t believe he can stay married to his wife if his lifelong dream is no longer a possibility.
He tried to have a bunch of discussions with her about this, and she refused to budge. Apparently, his wife is already happy with the two of them as a child-free couple and has no desire to deal with the responsibility of raising kids.
He understands that, too, and respects his wife’s feelings.
“But I can’t help but feel like I’m giving up a huge part of my future if I stay in this marriage,” he explained.
This pushed him to tell his wife that if she was sure about never having children, then they needed to get divorced.
The threat of their split devastated her, and she wouldn’t stop accusing him of picking hypothetical children over his own wife.
“I feel horrible,” he vented, “But I also feel like this is too big an issue to compromise on.”
Nonetheless, he’s still been left wondering if ending his marriage over a “change in plans” is an overreaction.
“Or is this a dealbreaker that I’m justified in not letting go?” he asked.
Might he always resent his wife if he stays and never has kids? Are they just not compatible anymore? What would you do?
You can read the original post on Reddit here.
Sign up for Chip Chick’s newsletter and get stories like this delivered to your inbox.
More About:Relationships
Read This Next
