Her Mom Never Treats Her Like She Matters, So She Moved In With Her Grandparents
Back when this 16-year-old girl’s mom was 18, she gave birth to her. Her biological father was some random man in college her mom hooked up with.
For many years, it was only her and her mom, and her mom refused to return home so her parents could step in to help.
Her mom never told her grandparents she existed. When she turned six, her mom forced her to tell them who exactly she was.
“Then not only did she use me to break the news, but she had me ask them if we could stay there for a while, and she coached me to do the puppy dog eyes and “make it good,” she explained.
“I did all that because she asked, and I was 6. When she wanted me to lie about my father, I did. When she wanted me to lie about where we’d lived before, I did. I did everything she asked.”
“I followed her along eagerly, for the most part, when she was bouncing between guys and putting those relationships before me. I even shared a room with a random baby and toddler when I was 8 because mom’s then-boyfriend only had one extra room where his kids slept.”
One time, she did gather the courage to ask her mom to make her more of a priority. But before she could get the words out, her mom guilt-tripped her into how she should be the one to come first in their lives since she had her at such a young age. That was the last time she attempted to talk to her mom about her feelings.
Four years back, her mom met her current husband, and they dated online throughout the pandemic.
Three years ago, her mom moved in with her husband and married him just two weeks later. But it wasn’t just her mom’s husband joining their family; he came along with three children of his own.
DariaTrofimova – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
While her mom’s husband’s kids were with their mom frequently, they spent a ton of time with them as well. She hated the new arrangement but didn’t say anything to her mom about it.
“She put more effort into his kids than she did to me, and it stung a lot,” she said. “They were younger, but so…what? I was still her kid, too.”
“She treated me more like an older sister by burdening me with her issues and asking me for “help” with them. So, I started spending more time with my grandparents and started to thrive.”
“And then her husband’s ex died, and my mom and her husband wanted to take in her other kids (not mom’s stepkids), and mom told me she/they were adopting them all.”
She knew she would never get through to her mom, so she went to her grandparents and said she would really like to live with them.
Her mom was blindsided when she broke the news to her, but she allowed her to leave, anticipating this would only be a brief thing.
It’s now a month after the fact, and it has finally dawned on her mom that she’s not returning home.
Her mom has reached out to ask her to come home to “bond” with all of the children and help her out. She told her mom she would not be doing that.
“She said they’ll be my official siblings in a year, and we need to give them a good life,” she added.
“I told her no. They’ll be her kids and I won’t be because she never treated me like hers. I told her I don’t want to give those kids a good life or to be their sister.”
“I don’t want to help her or her husband. I don’t want to put her first anymore. I told her I’m done supporting her. Mom started crying, her husband cussed me out and accused me of cruelty and abandoning my family.”
She’s left wondering if it was wrong of her to move in with her grandparents since her mom never treats her like she matters.
What do you think?
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