His Younger Daughter Borrowed His Eldest Daughter’s Car And Totaled It, So Now She’s Refusing To Speak To Him Or His Wife Until They Replace The Vehicle
This man is currently married, and he and his wife have two teenage daughters together.
His eldest daughter Casey, who’s 17, also worked hard for around one year and saved up enough money to buy a better car than what they could afford to buy her.
But, ever since his younger daughter Alana, who’s 16, borrowed the car and crashed it, there’s been a ton of tension in his household.
For some context, Alana apparently has ADHD and only got her driver’s license not long before the incident – which happened about six months ago. And one day, Alana asked to drive Casey’s car, and Casey supposedly said yes.
Well, Alana wound up getting into a bad car accident and totaling the vehicle. Unfortunately, the insurance payout was not even close to being enough money to pay for a replacement car, either.
“And with Alana’s medical bills from the accident (thankfully, there was no permanent damage, just a broken arm and leg), there was no way we could afford to replace Casey’s car immediately,” he recalled.
At the time, his younger daughter was extremely apologetic about what happened. He and his wife were, too, as they weren’t able to get Casey another vehicle.
Despite that, his eldest daughter never accepted their apology and has been avoiding them all ever since.
“Skipping family dinners and pretty much pretending that her mom, Alana, and I don’t exist and only talks to us if she needs a form signed for her school,” he detailed.
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After this went on for months, he eventually begged Casey to attend a family therapy session, and she agreed under one condition – Alana could not be there.
During the session, she made it clear that she wasn’t going to resume a relationship with him or his wife until they were able to get her a new car. According to him, this wouldn’t be able to realistically happen until next year.
This pushed the therapist to jump in and ask how Casey expected him and his wife to be able to afford that. At that point, she claimed that her sister Alana could just be forced to work and earn the money for the car.
He has a problem with this idea, though, due to Alana’s severe ADHD.
“She already has trouble managing her schoolwork. I’m worried that making her work to earn the money will harm her grades and have significant ramifications for her future,” he explained.
He tried telling that to Casey, too, but she refused to budge. She believes Alana should’ve thought about that before “destroying the car.”
Then, Casey doubled down, stating that she would not be speaking to anyone in their family until her vehicle was replaced.
In response, he told Casey that she was free to do whatever she wanted.
“But I’m not going to permanently harm her sister’s future to get her a car earlier,” he added.
Thankfully, his wife is on his side and thinks they need to stand firm in their decision. Yet, she’s also concerned that Casey will actually never speak to her again over this.
He noted that he obviously feels bad about Casey’s car getting ruined. Even so, it’s important to him that he looks out for both of his kids – not just one of them.
“I also don’t want to set the precedent that emotional blackmail will work, even if what you’re asking for is unreasonable,” he vented.
Nonetheless, with so much strain on him and his wife’s relationship with Casey right now, he can’t help but wonder if he’s really handling this situation the wrong way.
Do you think his younger daughter should be held responsible for the cost of a new car? Or do you agree that she should be focusing on school instead?
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