Her Fiancé Confessed That He Finds Her Friends Attractive After Checking Them Out In Their Tiny Bikinis, And She’s Heartbroken
Two weeks ago, this 33-year-old woman and her 30-year-old fiancé set out for a European vacation, and they just got home from their trip.
While it was an amazing experience, some major obstacles popped up while they were still abroad. She and her fiancé have never taken a trip this extensive together, nor have they really been outside of the country they’re from.
“The stresses got the best of us on travel days, and we really clashed,” she explained. “We managed to have conversations and get through, but one thing I noticed was his wandering eye while we were traveling.”
She’s quite good at reading her fiancé’s body language, and she can obviously see when he attempts to position himself in a specific way so he can get a better look at things.
Her fiancé also loves to try to discreetly check other women out, but it’s something she notices every single time.
During their vacation, she brought it up to her fiancé that she could tell he was checking girls out, but he denied it all the way.
She then dragged up a summer pool party they attended, along with her best friends. A handful of her besties had on itty bitty bikinis, and she could tell her fiancé was checking out one of her best friend’s backsides while she was sitting close to him.
She informed her fiancé that she didn’t want to address the pool party situation but that he was acting in the same way on their trip, so she didn’t think he gave her much of a choice to leave the past in the past.
Her fiancé instantly looked agitated, but he couldn’t find the words to say. But then he defended his actions by saying her best friends were in bikinis, so what was he supposed to have done in that situation?
rh2010 – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
“He then proceeded to say I have attractive friends, and he likes to appreciate beauty,” she said.
“That he’s very visual. And then proceeded to defend his right to find other people outside of me attractive.”
“As someone who has trust issues, specifically with cheating from my ex-boyfriends, all of which my current partner is incredibly aware of, this cut deeply. Because this resembles the beginning of these type[s] of situations happening.”
She’s worked hard not to allow her experiences with her exes to leak into her present romance, but she’s so messed up over her fiancé denying that he was checking girls out in Europe, only to finally admit that he was ogling her best friends at the pool party.
She can’t trust that her fiancé won’t take other opportunities in the future to check girls out behind her back, which makes her wildly uncomfortable.
She knows part of this comes down to her needing to work harder on her self-esteem, and she does have a therapist who is helping her through this.
There are plenty of gorgeous girls that walk this earth, but it hits differently when someone you love so much won’t hide his interest in girls so close to you.
She feels that her fiancé’s comfort with checking out her best friends is a line that has been crossed.
“I’m really, really struggling to figure out how I’m supposed to integrate my partner further into my group of friends as we start to plan marriage when I am now aware he finds my best friends attractive,” she added.
“I have expressed my needs and that the only thing that should matter to him is making me feel comfortable and confident in his love for me, and that behavior certainly doesn’t.”
She doesn’t want this to be the thing that rips them apart, but she can’t help but feel completely heartbroken over her fiancé’s admission that her best friends are pretty.
What advice do you have for her?
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