She Googled A Guy She’s Supposed To Go On A Date With And Found A Girl On Social Media Claiming He Assaulted Her
A year ago, this 39-year-old woman got separated after spending 10 years with her ex. Post-breakup, she really took things slowly, reflected on the end of that relationship, and got herself in a position where she was thrilled to begin dating again.
So, she signed up for a dating app and got flooded with a ton of messages from different guys. One 43-year-old man really stood out to her, and they formed kind of an instant connection.
They shared the same interests and desired travel destinations, and he seemed to be a really genuine, considerate, and sweet guy.
She was excited to learn that she had a lot in common with him. He asked her questions, so their conversation was never one-sided, and when she told him that she’s a mom to one child, he was wonderful about it.
She saw no red flags at all, only green, unlike many of the men she was getting messages from.
She really appreciated that this guy wasn’t messaging her nonstop, rushing into things, or trying to love-bomb her.
“I felt really good wherever we chatted,” she explained. “And there was a ton of mutual attraction. We’ve been texting/phoning for a few weeks now.”
She then realized that her upcoming trip for work is to a city that’s only several hours away from where he lives.
She thought it would be nice to see him in person, so she booked an extra evening at her hotel to make sure she would have enough time for a date.
Dash – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
From there, it crossed her mind to Google this man, and she was blown away by what she found. A girl had called him out a couple of years ago on social media for assaulting her.
“[There] doesn’t appear to have been any charges, just a description of him sleeping with someone who later regretted it and felt pressured and wished she had said no and was only now just processing the trauma around it she’d buried,” she added.
“She also said that she learned he’d been pushy with other women she knew. I honestly am bamboozled and trying to interrogate my feelings about this. Part of me wants to pretend I never saw this. Part of me is laughing hysterically at my bad luck.”
“Part of me wants to ask him directly and see what he says. Part of me wants to cancel my trip. Part of me doesn’t want to cancel my trip because we’ve had such a good connection and I find him attractive and until today was hoping I’d end my run of celibacy after going on this date.”
“And I feel grossed out at myself for all these conflicting feelings. I believe victims! Help! I know you don’t really know people you meet online, but should you give people a chance?”
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