Upon Learning Her Fiancé Was Cheating With A Coworker, She Left Her Ring Behind, Moved Out, And Silently Started To Move On With Her Life
When you learn that the person you hoped to spend the rest of your years with was unfaithful, it’s understandable to immediately want to cut them off and never speak to them again.
A woman has decided to start a new life without her ex-fiancé, who cheated on her with his coworker. But some of her loved ones are making her feel guilty about it.
She’s 31 and was with her ex, Jose, for five years. They had only been engaged for around six months before she discovered he had been having an affair with a coworker.
She looked through his email inbox and found evidence proving they had been going behind her back for nine months.
It was a devastating blow, as she always figured she and Jose had a solid relationship and would be together forever, starting a family and building a home.
“At first, I was beyond mad, and my first impulse was to find ways to literally ruin his and her life,” she explained.
“But honestly, after about 16 hours of thinking and crying about it [while] he was on a work trip, I figured anything I did would be a waste of time.”
Because her goal in life was to become a mother and be with someone who made her happy, she didn’t believe it was worth it to waste even a second plotting revenge against Jose and his coworker. Instead, she planned to let it go and begin anew.
She packed up all her belongings and, with her parents’ help, moved back into her family’s house for some security. She left behind everything considered her and Jose’s and opted not to take any items that symbolized them as a couple.
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One of the biggest moments in her breakup was when she left her engagement ring at their house, meaning it was truly over.
Two days after uncovering Jose’s lies, he began pressuring her to get on the phone, but she dodged his calls and continued separating herself from him. She protected her bank accounts and made it so that she’d be in no way tied to her ex.
“By the third day, still without saying anything to him, I blocked him and asked my parents not to discuss anything with him,” she recalled.
“I told them they were more than welcome to maintain a relationship with him if they chose, [because] my dad loved him, but I asked them not to talk about me at all.”
By the time Jose’s business trip had ended, he showed up at her parents’ house, but she ordered her dad to tell him to go home. It’s officially been two weeks since she left Jose, and she has maintained no contact. Though this period of a split is usually extremely difficult, she was feeling pretty good, touring new apartments and anticipating her future free of him.
During this process, she never felt the need to have it out with Jose. After all, it was like she had nothing to say. She believed she didn’t owe him a conversation after what he did to her. However, her parents are thinking differently.
“While discussing my plans, my parents basically sat me down and asked me to talk over everything with [Jose],” she said.
“They figure I will regret it in the future, that mistakes happen, that without his ‘confession,’ I can’t be 100% sure that he cheated, etc. I told them that I didn’t want to waste any more time on the situation.”
She acknowledged that she’s been “selfish” since blocking Jose but stressed to her parents that hearing his side of the story wouldn’t help her heal. That led to a heated argument between them, and her mom told her she thought she had raised a “more compassionate and caring daughter.”
Should she consider talking to Jose or continue to keep him blocked so she can move on?
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