She Broke Up With Her Boyfriend Of Three Years By Just Packing Her Things, Moving Out, And Blocking Him On All Social Media Platforms, But Her Friends Believe He Deserved An Explanation

Jelena - stock.adobe.com - illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
Jelena - stock.adobe.com - illustrative purposes only, not the actual person

This woman and her boyfriend, Jack, were together for just over three years – even though they both had crushes on each other at least one year before they officially started dating.

Then, once they finally acted on their feelings and became official, she thought the first two years of their relationship were amazing.

“But the third year, we kinda basically lived together, and I don’t know what happened,” she recalled.

“Thins just started collapsing for me. I found all these little things I just didn’t like about him and the way he does his day-to-day; meanwhile, he claimed to just be falling more and more in love with me every day.”

She also despises confrontation since she isn’t good at sharing her feelings without getting emotional. So, she tends to avoid conflict by any means necessary.

That’s why, despite her changing feelings toward Jack and their relationship, she just pasted a smile on her face and acted as though everything was fine.

Obviously, though, lying to both herself and Jack about how she truly felt was not sustainable. And after a year of putting on a facade, she decided she just couldn’t stand it anymore.

Around the same time, Jack had been looking for a new apartment for them both to move into. One day, he also happened to schedule a meeting to sign a lease for an apartment unit he fell in love with, and she straight-up panicked.

Then, after feeling overcome by a whirlwind of emotions, she decided to flee. While Jack was working that day, she just packed all of her things in his apartment, left the spare key he’d given her on the kitchen counter, and moved out. She also blocked him on all social media platforms.

Jelena – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person

“I know this doesn’t make me look good, but please keep in mind I was PANICKING and, above all else, I need to keep my peace,” she explained.

“I also adhere to the principle of ‘you don’t owe anyone anything,’ which my therapist introduced me to, and I do think is true. Ultimately, you need to put yourself first.”

Still, once she eventually told her friends about what happened, they were all furious at her. Her best friend, Lacy, even called her a coward and claimed she owed Jack a conversation. Lacy also said it was unfair that she led her boyfriend on for a year.

She tried asking her friend what about her own peace and feelings. But Lacy basically said her feelings didn’t matter and that she should’ve spoken to Jack like an adult.

Ever since she left and ghosted him, Jack has apparently been really messed up, too. She’s heard that he’s having an emotional breakdown and not eating.

“That makes me even more afraid to reach out to him,” she vented.

“How can my friends expect me to talk to him knowing my deep fear of confrontation? Why am I being a coward for protecting my peace?”

Nonetheless, in the wake of her breakup, she can’t help but wonder if she really did handle this the wrong way by up and leaving Jack without any explanation.

Do you agree that her boyfriend deserved at least a conversation after they had been together for more than three years? How would you feel if your long-term partner just ghosted you like that?

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Katharina Buczek graduated from Stony Brook University with a degree in Journalism and a minor in Digital Arts. Specializing ... More about Katharina Buczek

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