She’s Disappointed About What Her Husband Bought Her For Mother’s Day, As Well As The Dinner Plans He Came Up With
This woman is currently married, and she thinks her husband is wonderful. While she loves him to pieces, though, she cannot understand his thought process behind her gift for Mother’s Day this year.
For some context, their anniversary was back in March, and he got a Groupon for a sake tasting as her present. She thought that was a “fine” idea, too, and didn’t have any problems with it.
“I also got him gifts from me. I don’t consider an anniversary a one-way street in that regard,” she recalled.
Now that Mother’s Day is approaching, she’s also begun thinking about what she’d like as a gift. For instance, she’d love to get a manicure, perhaps get some cheaper lawn ornaments for their yard, or be gifted some cooking ingredients. She doesn’t expect anything extravagant from her husband.
The problem, though, is that he never actually asked her what she wanted. And now, she’s pretty sure that he went ahead and bought her an art piece because she saw their credit card statement.
This isn’t up her alley at all, either, because she’s not the “art person” in their family. Not to mention, they already have three art pieces lying around their home that are yet to even be hung up.
“I’m trying to mentally prepare to be underwhelmed and think of some way to show my appreciation for this gift I do not want,” she explained.
“I’m trying to see his point of view. He’s trying to share something he likes with me… but (perhaps selfishly), I can only feel a bit of disdain that what I would want doesn’t seem to have been considered.”
Until she actually opens her gift on Mother’s Day, she also won’t know if she’s completely right about her present. So, she’s hoping that she’s still able to be “surprised” and that her husband picked out a wonderful gift she’ll really like.
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Still, there’s one other issue when it comes to Mother’s Day as well – what food they plan to eat that day for dinner.
According to her, she is pretty “selective” when it comes to restaurants. Additionally, since they are trying to save money, they haven’t been eating out much lately.
However, when the topic of Mother’s Day dinner came up in conversation, her husband said he just wanted to use the sake-tasting Groupon from their anniversary. Then, he planned to “hit up the food truck” at the tasting.
Well, she wasn’t thrilled about that and decided to send her husband a list of other food places with various price ranges. She also told him that she’d rather check those places out and save their sake tasting for another occasion.
“But he still plans on doing the food truck,” she vented.
“I have nothing against food trucks. I’m just not interested in this particular one and there are other places I’d much rather go.”
This has left her in a pickle, too, because she has no clue how to talk to her husband about the situation without feeling “supremely selfish.”
So, she realizes that she has two options. She can either find a subtle way to discuss this with her husband in a way that won’t hurt his feelings. Or, she can try to find a way to be “ok” with his ideas for Mother’s Day.
Still, she has no idea which option to choose, and she’s not sure if being disappointed about his gift and food ideas for Mother’s Day is unreasonable or not.
Does it seem like her husband is trying to put in effort? Do you think she needs to have an open conversation with him to share what she really wants? How would you handle this situation in her shoes?
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