It’s pretty much unheard of to have a first date that lasts more than 12 hours. So how would you feel if you invested 16 hours into one, slept with that person, and then they ghosted you?
This 25-year-old woman has been active on the apps in her effort to get back into the dating world. She recently went out on a first date with a 25-year-old guy she met on one, and their date lasted from 6 p.m. to 10 a.m.
She says it was unexpected to spend so much time with a guy she didn’t even know, and leading up to their date, they had some good communication via text.
He was quite consistent, and they had some exciting and hilarious conversations. He was easy to talk to, so she was looking forward to meeting him in person.
He offered to pick her up and drive her to their date spot. Later on, he invited her to have another drink with him at a second location. She was happy to report that he was just as fun to talk to in real life.
It’s been a while since she’s been out on a first date like this that was exciting and not like, well, pulling teeth. Anyway, after finishing their drinks, they relocated to a third spot closer to where they both happen to live.
Next, he dropped his car off by her house, and then they made their way over to her favorite bar.
“There was a Netflix show on the TV there, and [he] said we should watch it, so we came back to mine. We fell asleep on my bed and ‘hooked up’ later on,” she explained.
“Then he left in the morning. Said he would text me. But I ended up texting first, saying I had a good time and hope he recovered. He texted back saying ‘it was fun’ and then another text. I responded, but he didn’t text back.”
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Several days later, she sent him a follow-up text, only to be met with crickets. She realizes this guy does not owe her a single thing after only one date, but she wishes he had told her he wasn’t feeling it or didn’t think they would be a good match.
“Maybe it’s just me, but I’d rather know the honest truth than get ghosted. I don’t have as much hope now for a second date, but it just [stinks that] there was no communication after.”
She’s hoping he will eventually reach out to her, because she can’t quit thinking about him. She’s not sure how to move on, and she’s wondering if she should stop dating completely following such a disappointment.
Well, it sounds to me like this guy got what he wanted during their Netflix and chill time, and he said he had fun, but clearly, he wasn’t looking for anything more than that.
I highly doubt he will ever contact her again, and she shouldn’t waste her time waiting around for him, nor should she give up on dating entirely after a setback.
In the future, she absolutely should not hook up with a guy on a first date if she’s interested in having an actual relationship with him.
She should probably clearly state in her profile that she’s looking for a commitment and not just a fling, too.
What advice do you have for her?
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