If you separated from your spouse and they went running back to their ex to sleep on their couch, would that kill off your desire to reconcile with them?
This 46-year-old woman first started dating her 47-year-old husband back in August of 2022, and they tied the knot in October of 2024.
This is a second marriage for both of them, and she has three sons with her ex-husband, while her husband has two daughters with his ex-wife. They were single when they met, by the way.
Six months ago, she made the decision to separate from her husband because he was struggling with his mental health, which in turn was negatively impacting their marriage.
Her husband has tons of friends but no family members to support him, which she thinks made the problem worse. Anyway, since separating from her husband, he has been constantly contacting her, asking to reconcile.
They have spent some time with one another during their split, and her husband told her that he’s staying on his ex-wife’s couch.
Although he was supposed to be living with his friend, his friend’s daughter sometimes needs to use the spare bedroom, which displaces her husband.
“My husband has also dropped into conversations that he has been doing things around the house for her, like putting up shelves and helping out around the house,” she explained.
“He also mentioned an app that she uses and said that she is always on it, indicating to me that he is spending more time with her than I thought. He also told me he has a cupboard in her kitchen for his food items. Why do you need a cupboard somewhere if you’re only there once a week?”
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“Yesterday I told him I feel deeply disrespected that he’s spending all this time with her and asked him how he would feel in my shoes, if I started staying over at my ex-husband’s house and cleaning his house and making dinners for him, etc. My husband said he would hate that and find it very hurtful, and he apologized to me and agreed that it’s disrespectful.”
She told her husband she’s drawing a hard line, and he has to quit staying on his ex-wife’s couch and going out of his way for her.
Her husband ignored her request, which told her everything she needed to know. Next, she blocked her husband and has decided to move on because of his blatant disrespect.
But she’s still curious if she’s a jerk for expecting her husband to agree to her single boundary in order to fix their marriage.
No, she’s not a jerk, but her husband sure is. I wonder if he intentionally imploded their marriage by ignoring her request because he wants to get back together with his ex-wife.
Hey, stranger things have happened for sure.
What do you think?
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