I know there are people out there who like to downplay a C-section, and even though it’s a common procedure these days, it’s still classified as major surgery. So how would you feel if you had a C-section, and your husband was anything but sympathetic about it?
This woman recently gave birth to her daughter, and it was traumatic. She had to undergo an emergency C-section, which left her in pain and exhausted emotionally as well as physically.
Since her daughter is her firstborn, she also struggled with adjusting to being a mom. After being discharged from the hospital, she was expecting more sympathy from her husband, but she got none.
Fresh out of the hospital, she had gone eight hours without eating one day, and her husband’s sister and dad came over. They never gave them a time to drop by, and they showed up without warning.
She was tired and wanted to eat and nap, but the pressure was on to entertain her in-laws, so she did just that. But then she asked her husband to please ask his family to go home so she could get some food.
“After they left, I finally sat down with some soup, and that’s when my husband started yelling at me, saying I had been disrespectful to his family,” she explained.
“I sat there crying while trying to eat. What hurt me the most was feeling like he chose his family over me at a time when I needed him the most.”
And if you think that’s the worst of it, just wait, she was in for more trouble in paradise when her mom celebrated her 60th birthday, and her in-laws came to the party at her house.
She bought presents and mentioned she had to take a quick nap because she was drained. While she was catching a bit of shuteye, everyone left the party.
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Her husband gave her mom the gifts without waking her up to see her open them. After all, it was her mom’s 60th, which was a big one to miss out on.
“My mom later told me she knew I would be upset about missing saying goodbye. I woke up an hour later and completely broke down,” she added.
“The third incident happened on my 30th birthday, which felt like a really big milestone for me. I had clearly told my husband that I wanted a gold necklace with our daughter’s first initial on it.”
“When I opened the gift that morning, the letter was tiny, and my husband even said himself something like: ‘Wow, that was smaller than I expected.’ It made me feel sad because it seemed like he hadn’t even properly checked what he ordered before giving it to me.”
Although her husband has endlessly said sorry to her for how he acted while she was freshly postpartum, she cannot get over it and sobs whenever she thinks about his behavior.
She still is hurt and feels like her husband didn’t make her the priority in meaningful moments. She’s left wondering if she’s being irrational for still being so upset.
Her husband acted like a real jerk by yelling at her for wanting his family to leave their house right after she had a C-section, and that’s really unforgivable.
It’s insane to do that to someone who was just cut open and had a baby pop out, but it could be that he was stressed too about becoming a dad and disappointing his family.
The other things I don’t think are as alarming; they’re more of a communication breakdown. She didn’t ask him to wake her up to do birthday presents with her mom, so that’s just a failure on her part.
As for the birthday necklace, her husband did exactly what she wanted, and she never told him what size she expected the necklace to be, so she’s overreacting about it.
I think they really have to work on strengthening their communication skills, and she has to do better with conveying her wants and needs to her husband.
It’s not fair for her to hold onto her negative feelings when her husband has expressed his remorse and apologized, and it’s not like he can turn back time and do things differently.
What do you think?
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By Bre Avery Zacharski
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