This 28-year-old woman has been estranged from her 55-year-old father for the past decade. He was abusive during her childhood, and after she spent years going to therapy, she ultimately decided to cut her father out of her life.
Her 24-year-old brother, on the other hand, didn’t do the same. In fact, her brother has continued to have a relationship with their dad.
“And while I don’t agree with it, I’ve tried to respect their bond,” she said.
“I’ve made it clear, though, that I do not want him in my life, and I don’t want to hear about him.”
Unfortunately, her brother totally disregarded her feelings the other day and actually invited her father to her home behind her back.
The situation began a few weeks ago when her brother went over to her house to hang out. And while they were just chatting, he randomly mentioned that he planned to bring their father over in order to “patch things up” with her.
“I was shocked and told him that under no circumstances should our father be coming to my home,” she recalled.
She also reiterated how she had no interest in ever talking to their father again.
Yet, just yesterday, her brother had the nerve to show up with their father anyway. She was understandably livid and told them both to leave. Plus, she accused her brother of disrespecting her boundaries.
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He attempted to apologize and claimed he was only trying to fix her relationship with their dad. Apparently, he believed springing their father on her was the “best way to do it.”
“But I told him he had no right to make that decision for me and that I never wanted to see our father again,” she revealed.
Her brother left after that. However, he won’t stop texting her and accusing her of overreacting. He thinks it’s unfair for her to cut off any chance of reconciliation.
Being at odds with her brother has left her feeling really torn, too. She knows she has a right to choose whether she wants her father in her life or not. Still, she doesn’t want to mess up her relationship with her brother.
“And at the same time, my boundaries are important to me,” she vented.
Amidst her whirlwind of mixed emotions, she’s now wondering if kicking her brother out and refusing to talk to their father was justified or made her a jerk.
What would you do if your sibling pulled a stunt like that? Was her brother out of line?
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