This 34-year-old man has spent a decade with his 32-year-old wife, and they tied the knot two and a half years ago.
Several days back, he found out a shocking secret his wife has been keeping. Months before their wedding day, his wife cheated with her boss. She did move to a new job, but it had nothing to do with sleeping with her boss.
He’s struggling with what he should do for a few reasons. He and his wife have the same friends, and his wife’s now ex-boss is in their social circle, so they routinely see him.
They’ve never encountered big issues in their relationship up until this moment, and they’ve always been best friends.
If they had to share one room together for an entire year in isolation, they’re the kind of couple that would be thrilled to do that.
“As such, our lives are extremely intertwined to the point of happy codependence. She’s my best friend, and we were very much looking forward to settling down and starting a family now that we’re in a financial position to do so,” he explained.
Whatever decision he makes has the potential to alter his life for years on end, and that’s why he’s treading carefully.
It was three days ago that he got a message out of nowhere from the former partner of his wife’s ex-boss.
This woman had evidence of the cheating his wife participated in and thought he should know about it.
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“For whatever reason, the scumbag had kept a list of his conquests, his partner had found it, and lo and behold, my wife’s name was on with the year 2022, location, and rating,” he said.
“As I was trying to get my head around what I was seeing I walked into my kitchen and saw my wife on the phone with a panicked look (no prizes for guessing who was on the other end of that phone) at which point she now had something to tell me.”
His wife’s reason for sleeping with her ex-boss is that she was panicking amid their upcoming wedding since she never got to sleep with anyone else but him.
So she thought sleeping with her ex-boss was the perfect way to solve her cold feet. Then she and her ex-boss went on their merry ways and kept that a secret.
His wife started crying when he asked her what on earth she was thinking. She didn’t try to excuse away what she did, and she seemed to be truly full of remorse.
But then his wife argued that she was lied to by her ex-boss, as he made her believe he never conducted an affair. He had to inform his wife that really was not the point.
His wife has since blocked her ex-boss, suggested they could move to a new part of the UK, or offered to move out of their home to make him feel better. She also threw out attending counseling together, but his head is just spinning.
“The mental image of them together is branded in my brain, but above all, what I can’t quite get past is how effectively she hid this from me, internally compartmentalizing almost impressively so that I had literally no inclination anything had happened,” he continued.
“That over the course of a few weeks, this was planned, and then one morning, she left for work as normal with the full intention of sleeping with AP, did the deed, and came home later and lied to me without missing a beat.”
“She’s insistent this was the only time, but I’m not sure how much I trust her anymore. With all that being said, I have absolutely no clue what to do now.”
He’s torn between seeking revenge on his wife and evening the score or pretending the affair never went down.
He wishes he could forgive and move on, but that’s not happening any time soon. If he tries to do that, he’s going to end up resenting his wife.
What advice do you have for him?
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