For the last three years, this 32-year-old man has been dating his 29-year-old girlfriend, though they’ve known one another for six years.
They currently live under the same roof, and marriage has been a topic of discussion. His girlfriend is quite successful in her career as an attorney, and she makes a ton more money than he does.
“What attracted me to her initially, besides her looks, is how independent and confident she is,” he explained.
“She owns every room she walks into; confidence is off the charts. Neither of us came from money, but we are both in much better places than our families ever were.”
Over the weekend, he plugged his phone in to charge next to his girlfriend’s iPad when he saw some notifications pop up on her device.
The person who was messaging his girlfriend was a guy, but he didn’t know his name as someone related to his girlfriend in any way.
Along with the guy’s name was a photo of him in a football jersey, and although he’s not super into sports, he sort of seemed familiar.
So he Googled this guy’s first name, followed by “NFL,” and there he was. He figured this was some kind of prank, as how did his girlfriend know a professional athlete on a first-name basis?
Curiosity got the best of him, so he looked through his girlfriend’s text messages with this guy, which he regrets.
Gorodenkoff – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual people – pictured above are football players on a field
“There were personal pictures shared which weren’t anywhere else online,” he said. “Convos went back to at least 2020, which is BEFORE we even got together.”
“Daily texts, phone calls, FaceTimes. Lots of “love you,” and “you’re everything,” and “I can’t wait to be with you again” from both parties.”
“Photos of them on vacation (the times she went on “work trips”), dinner dates, cooking at some house I didn’t recognize, etc.”
This NFL player has been married for quite some time, and he has kids with his wife. He found this guy’s social media accounts full of posts about his wife and kids. It seems he’s invested in his family.
He suspected that perhaps this guy had an open marriage with his wife, but all the things he found in the texts suggest otherwise.
His girlfriend spoke to her affair partner about hiding their relationship from his wife, and they talked about him getting a divorce while leaving his wife penniless.
“The convos are a wild read of romantic, sweet exchanges and business-like legalese,” he said. “I have been numb since then.”
“I haven’t said a peep because, frankly, I am scared and confused. I don’t understand why she’d get with me if she had this affair with a whole…millionaire celebrity.”
“Thankfully, my GF has been away for work, and we haven’t seen each other much. I need to make a decision soon because I’m not sure how much longer I can do this for.”
He kind of wants to dump his girlfriend without warning and not let onto the fact that he knows about her affair.
He doesn’t think she would even be upset by him coming up with a lie and saying that he wants to have more time for his career or feels like they have drifted apart.
He’s just hesitant to be confrontational, but he’s still wondering what the best thing to do is.
What advice do you have for him? Do you think he should tip his hand?
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