Eleven months ago, this 32-year-old woman and her 32-year-old boyfriend started dating, but they only made things official four months ago.
Recently, her boyfriend mentioned he knew his ex posted on social media to warn other girls about how awful he is.
He stated his ex accused him of being abusive, which he vehemently denied. She was worried enough to go hunt up the post and have a look for herself, and it wasn’t difficult to uncover.
The post had nothing about abuse, but it was all about how her boyfriend’s a cheater and a liar. She already knew these things about her boyfriend, as he told her the truth about it.
“I’ve not held his past against him ever, giving him the chance to do things differently with me,” she explained.
“I was relieved to see no accusations of physical abuse and that most of what he had told me about the cheating was consistent with what she reported in the post.”
“There were a few details about the extent of the cheating that he hadn’t told me, and about his character and how he would lie, that I wanted clarification on.”
She turned around and told her boyfriend she got her hands on the post and then asked him to clarify everything his ex was saying.
Specifically, she wanted him to clean up the accusations about him being a liar, but her boyfriend got angry with her for even digging the post up.
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Her boyfriend accused her of violating his privacy and trust by reading it, and he said he already told her what he felt she should know. He then snapped that it was none of her business to know about his past.
“He was very hurt by my actions to search for the post, which made me feel very bad for doing so,” she added.
She attempted to get him to see things from her side and how frightening it was. She feels it would have been foolish for her to ignore it. Reading his ex’s account was for her safety and her well-being.
“I need to know who I’m dating and why there is this accusation,” she continued. “I feel guilty for finding this post and asking questions about what his ex said about the lying, but was that actually a bad thing to do?”
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