Katharina Buczek
Consider These Things Before Dating A Coworker
With all of these risks now said, it’s true that sometimes you just can’t deny your feelings. That’s why so many in-office romances wind up happening anyway, against our mind’s better judgment.
If your heart is telling you to go for it, you can. Just be sure to consider these factors to protect your position and career.
First, before you even think about dating a colleague, look over your company’s workplace relationship policy. You can find out whether romantic relationships are allowed and if there are any associated guidelines for working alongside partners. Most importantly, determine whether you need to report your relationship to HR.
Sometimes, it’s a good idea to report your relationship even if there isn’t a strict policy in place. This shows transparency, can maintain a healthy work environment, and will mitigate any future misunderstandings.
Secondly, truly think about how your relationship has the potential to change your career.
Will your day-to-day routine change? Are you able to compartmentalize any romantic issues or emotional feelings while you’re in the office to work together productively? Are you confident that you can remain objective while making decisions without your partner’s influence?
Lastly, mentally prepare yourself for the worst possible outcome. It’s great to be optimistic and hope for long-term relationship success, but it’s perhaps more important to be realistic.
So, consider what you will do in the event of a bad breakup. Would you be open to moving to a different department or working at another company location? In severe circumstances, are you okay with the possibility of finding a new workplace entirely?
These questions are huge and terrifying. That’s no secret. But while relationships can be fickle, your career can last until retirement (if that’s what you want).
Don’t sacrifice what you have worked so hard for on a spontaneous, emotionally driven whim. Think logically, proceed carefully, and with some careful consideration, in-office romances can be manageable.
