She’s Refusing To Return Home Because Her Husband Let His Ex-Wife Move In Without Asking Her First, And She Discovered He’d Been Financially Supporting His Ex For Months
This 29-year-old woman and her husband, who’s 34, have been married for two years, and they don’t have a traditional living arrangement.
Since she often has to travel for work, she has her own apartment in another city where she stays during the work week. At the same time, her husband lives in their shared home, which she visits on weekends.
This might feel strange to some couples, but it really worked for her and her husband until around three weeks ago, when her husband’s ex-wife entered the picture.
For some context, her husband’s ex, who’s 32, supposedly lost her job and wasn’t able to afford rent anymore. So, while she was at her apartment one week, her husband actually offered to let his ex move into their home “temporarily” until she could get back on her feet.
The real kicker? Her husband never consulted her about this first.
“To clarify, this is the mother of his 10-year-old son, and they’ve always maintained a cordial relationship for the sake of their child. But I feel blindsided and betrayed because this is a huge decision he made alone, and now she’s living in my home!” she explained.
She didn’t hesitate to tell her husband that she was uncomfortable with this arrangement as soon as she found out about it, either. Yet, he actually just called her “selfish” and tried to reassure her that he was simply helping out the mother of his son. He swore nothing romantic was going on.
She still feels disrespected, though, and genuinely doesn’t understand why her husband never confided in her about the situation.
“It’s like my opinion doesn’t matter in our marriage,” she said.
Maria Sbytova – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
Ever since her husband’s ex moved in, the woman has seemingly become way too comfortable in her home as well.
His ex has begun redecorating the guest room without asking her or her husband first and even suggested that they all have sit-down family dinners on the weekend.
However, she refused to do that and told her husband that she wouldn’t be returning home until his ex was moved out of their house.
“He’s furious, calling me immature and saying I’m choosing my pride over his son’s well-being. He claims I’m acting out of jealousy, but it’s not about that. It’s about boundaries!” she reasoned.
To make matters worse, she also recently found out that her husband’s ex has been dealing with mental health issues, and the lack of stability could cause his ex to lose custody of their son.
Her husband is very concerned that his ex might “spiral” and his son would end up going into foster care.
That’s why he is making it seem like she is the only person standing in the way of his son’s future, and on the one hand, it’s making her super guilty.
“But at the same time, I feel like this is being used to manipulate me into accepting a situation that I’m not okay with,” she added.
Plus, her husband has owned up to financially supporting his ex for months behind her back, and to her, this was also a major betrayal. She truly thought they were a team. Meanwhile, her husband was secretly making huge decisions.
She obviously knows that her husband’s ex is the mother of his child. Still, she has countless questions.
She doesn’t know what’s going to happen if his ex never gets back on her feet and whether she’s just supposed to let his ex stay at her house indefinitely.
On top of that, she’s unsure what to think about her husband giving his ex money for all that time.
“I feel like I’m being gaslit into accepting something that makes me uncomfortable,” she vented.
“But now I’m wondering if I’m being heartless for prioritizing my comfort over his son’s well-being.”
Do you agree that her husband was out of line for letting his ex move in like that? How would you handle this in her shoes?
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