“He told me that we could do therapy so we could sort out all the ways I didn’t love him enough, and that’s when I decided to leave,” she explained.
“After leaving him for 1 year, he called me almost every day saying what a horrible person I was for leaving him, as he was going through a bout of depression about not being promoted.”
“That ME who is now playing single mom, with lack of sleep, deep depression, an almost 1-year-old and 5-year-old, working full time was a horrible person for not being available to provide a shoulder for him to cry on.”
Around two years into their separation, she relented and allowed her husband to move back in with her and the kids.
But instead of things improving between them, they’re only getting worse. Being back with her husband is like a kind of punishment to her since her husband is always furious with her for not being able to get over his affair by now.
Every two days, they argue, and her husband has stated he’s sick of listening to her past feelings and that they should only be focusing on their future.
She doesn’t think that’s a fair ask, and she wants her husband to understand that. She can admit that when they did tie the knot, she had no communication skills, and she internalized her emotions.
She was always told that you shouldn’t nag your husband so that further played into her bottling everything up. Adding that to her husband’s love of complaining about everything under the sun, it has not been a good mix. She regrets everything at this rate.
“My other anger stems from how this has changed me,” she continued. “I have made terrible decisions all in the name of trying to recover from this nightmare. I know that people go through harder things, but this has changed me.”
What advice do you have for her?
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