She Said Her Daughter’s College Fund Was Off The Table If Her Daughter Planned To Stop Talking To Her After Leaving For School
This 45-year-old woman is a single mom to two kids: her 18-year-old daughter, Ella, and her 16-year-old son, Jake.
Sadly, when her children were still young, her husband passed away, and she worked her tail off to support them alone, both financially and emotionally.
“My husband left behind a life insurance policy, and I’ve been saving part of that money for their college education,” she said.
Her daughter has dreamed of attending a prestigious college since she was a little girl, too. So, over the years, she’s talked to her kids about the importance of learning, and she told both Ella and Jake that the fund she was building was specifically meant for their education.
“I wasn’t able to afford luxuries like vacations or new cars, but I wanted to make sure they wouldn’t be burdened with student loans,” she recalled.
Well, now that Ella has a new boyfriend named Matt, her relationship with her daughter has been really strained.
Ella and Matt started dating a few months ago, and afterward, she felt as if her daughter’s personality totally changed.
Suddenly, Ella is rude and distant and dismisses practically everything she says. She’s also gotten accused of “smothering” Ella or “treating her like a child.”
She tried to just give her daughter some space and leave the issue alone for a while. However, during a pretty bad argument last week, she hit her breaking point.
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That’s because Ella claimed that, once she went off to college, she was going no-contact and would never look back.
She was heartbroken that her daughter would even say that, given everything she’d sacrificed for both of her children. Still, she didn’t want to make any rash decisions out of emotion.
She wound up waiting a few days to cool off and think. Then, she ultimately decided that she wasn’t going to fund Ella’s education if her daughter didn’t want anything to do with her.
“I told Ella that if she’s planning to go no-contact with me after college, she should consider her fund off the table, and I’d split it between Jake and myself for other things,” she revealed.
Her daughter didn’t take the news well, either, and blew up on her. She was called selfish, manipulative, and vindictive. Ella even believes that she’s attempting to control her by “dangling the money over her head.”
Their fight was obviously heated, and she opted to confide in her friends about it. All of them were also pretty torn.
Some people stated that the money was hers, so she could do whatever she wanted with it. Meanwhile, others thought she was punishing her daughter for her feelings and using the money as “leverage.”
Their mixed reactions have pushed her to wonder if taking back her daughter’s college fund like that really was too far.
If you cut contact with someone, doesn’t that mean all communication and financial support are severed? What should she do here?
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