This 37-year-old woman and her husband, who’s 42, have been married for 14 years, and they have four children, two of whom are adopted.
She’s also been a stay-at-home mom for the past five years. But around one month ago, her entire view of her husband changed.
It all began when she was on his cell phone. To be clear, they each had access to each other’s phones, so this wasn’t a big deal.
Anyway, while she was on the device, she realized that her husband had a “locked” folder. Then, once he noticed she’d found out about the folder, he immediately snatched his phone away from her and tried to walk out the door.
Before he could leave, though, she stopped her husband and made it clear that if he deleted anything suspicious instead of coming clean about what was in the folder, she’d never be able to forgive him.
“I found him about 10 minutes later towards the back of our property, hiding and deleting,” she revealed.
She was furious, too, and started screaming at her husband to show her what he was hiding. Well, once he did, she was shell-shocked.
She discovered that her husband had both pictures and videos of women either walking around at grocery stores or standing in line to pay. He’d also been taking these photos as far back as two years ago and as recently as one week ago.
The folder obviously disturbed her, especially since none of these women ever consented to being photographed.
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“But in my state, you can take pictures in any public setting, and he wasn’t taking any gross pictures,” she explained.
Nonetheless, this has caused her to question their relationship. Her husband had apparently already done some “pretty awful stuff” during their marriage, but she chose to forgive him in order to stay together.
“Because he’s a great father, and at the time, I felt he was worth keeping,” she recalled.
Now, her husband began going to therapy after his folder was exposed. Additionally, he supposedly deleted all the photos and videos and wants to save their marriage.
Yet, she cannot get over what he did, and it’s making her think of him as gross and creepy.
“I am having more bad days than good days around him,” she vented.
Still, she’s conflicted, given their children are very young, and she has no idea what to do.
Would you be able to look at your partner the same after something like this?
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