His Wife’s Getting A Second Job, Even Though They Both Make Six Figures, Since She Loaned Her Brother A Ton Of Money He Hasn’t Paid Back

His wife is a hard worker who takes care of their home, and it wasn’t her who spent all of their money.

He told his wife she should wait to apply for another job until he can take another look at the money they do have in the bank.

“She says she wants to [be] “kept accountable,” [and] maybe she’ll “learn to spend more responsibly.” She says she’ll continue to maintain her contribution to the household (~70%) so that I won’t have to make any sacrifices to my quality of life. She only asks that she may quit her second job if she truly can’t manage (currently applying).”

“It doesn’t sit well with me that she has to go out for a second job. Not only that, the only jobs that will accommodate the part-time (weekend) schedule would be lower/minimum paying wages, which at her tax bracket, she would lose about 30-40%.”

“We both make 6-figures. I make about 1.8x as much as her (pre-tax). I recently started my career, which has no retirement plan, and we have a mortgage, want kids soon, hence the aggressive early savings to catch up.”

Additionally, they have loans to pay down, including student loans, and his alone is $80,000.

He has toyed with the idea of picking up another side project in his industry since he will be making what he normally does per house, but his wife feels terrible that he will be sacrificing for her.

He does work four and a half days at his day job, but he uses his weekends to prep his work for the week ahead, so a side gig will impact that.

What advice do you have for him?

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