His Wife Said She Didn’t Find Him Attractive At All Anymore While Struggling With Postpartum Depression, And He’s Been On Autopilot In Their Marriage Ever Since
We have all gotten overwhelmed or angry before and, in a moment of frustration, said something hurtful to a loved one.
But, if you were on the receiving end of a really harsh remark about your appearance from your significant other, would you be able to get over it?
One man has found himself in this same situation. Ever since his wife admitted to not finding him attractive anymore, he’s been having trouble doing anything except “going through the motions” in their marriage.
For some context, he and his wife were together for six years before they tied the knot two years ago. Then, just a couple of months ago, they welcomed their first child into the world.
“While it was very exciting, my wife did struggle a bit,” he recalled.
As his wife grappled with the postpartum period, she began to lash out at him despite him doing everything he could to help her.
One day, she also made a statement that left him devastated. His wife claimed that she didn’t find him attractive at all anymore.
“That was a sharp blow and stung a lot,” he said.
His wife immediately noticed the effect her words had on him, too, and she seemed remorseful. She instantly started crying and apologizing, and not long afterward, they visited a doctor to get her some help.
Drobot Dean – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
She was ultimately prescribed some medications for postpartum depression (PPD), and her mental health had a significant turnaround. According to him, the meds had a nearly instantaneous impact, improving his wife’s mood a ton.
Nonetheless, he cannot get his wife’s comment about his appearance out of his head. He’s unable to forget it, and now, he feels like he’s simply “going through the motions.”
“I am on autopilot and helping out with our baby as much as I can,” he detailed.
Yet he has absolutely no desire to be romantic with his wife, even though she wants to be with him.
She has continued apologizing for her statement as well, and she feels very guilty about what happened.
“And I’ve told her it’s okay. But I just want to wait it out until our baby is a year and a half and things are stable, and that’s when I’ll decide the next steps,” he vented.
Still, he can’t help but wonder if proceeding on “autopilot” in his marriage is understandable, given how hurt he is, or actually makes him a jerk.
Have you or your partner experienced PPD? How can he and his wife work to overcome this together?
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