Throughout those two years, his wife showed him material change. She continuously said sorry to him and sought therapy.
He chose to forgive her, but he declined to give their relationship a second chance. He never followed through with the divorce, but they were no longer considered a couple in his eyes.
They simply operated as co-parents and roommates, and that was that. But then, he fell in love with the girl his wife gave birth to, and he treated her the same as his two biological children.
He decided to stay in the home with his wife for an additional three years. This brings us to today, which marks five years since his wife’s affair, and he’s feeling clueless about his future.
He and his wife revived their physical relationship a month ago after she badgered him about it for years, and things have been better than ever.
He feels like it’s time to try to fix his marriage with his wife or move on since being in limbo isn’t a good idea, especially since his wife truly wants reconciliation.
“What my wife did was so terrible, and I know I’d be nuts to actually pursue reconciling our relationship,” he said.
“But I do still love her. I never stopped. And I may be a fool to believe this, but I think she loves me too; at least now she does. For the past five years, she’s been free to do as she wishes, and so was I. Like I said, we’ve been roommates, not people in a monogamous relationship.”
“She could have dated or slept with as many guys as she wanted, but she hasn’t even tried. She goes to work and home, nowhere else. I can track her phone, so I know. I, on the other hand, did briefly date another woman shortly after her baby was born.”
That relationship was short-lived for him, but it caused his wife to want to change. That was the inspiration she needed to seek out therapy, and later on, she admitted to him that it ruined her watching him be with another woman.
She tried to say seeing him with this woman made her realize how he must have felt about her affair, but he doesn’t think those two events are equal by any means.
