His Wife Cruelly Told Him Over The Phone That She’s Leaving, And He’s Wondering If He Should Beg Her To Stay
It was back in college that this 26-year-old man met his 24-year-old wife, and it was actually his then-girlfriend at the time who introduced them.
As soon as he saw his wife, he was captivated by her beauty, and he felt butterflies as he began speaking to her.
“Not long after we met, the sparks started to fly too high to ignore, and, albeit a rocky road to start our relationship, many fun dates and late nights later, we were sold on each other,” he explained.
“We moved in together about a year later and have been soaking up every ounce of fun and love we can find.”
“It’s one of the things I really love about us; the world could have been ending, but we’d be happy doing just about anything together. Six years later, a little more than five living together and two married, I wouldn’t have wanted to spend that time with anyone else.”
They were young when they met, so they absolutely have grown and changed a lot over the years spent together. He thinks they have changed for the better.
He worked his heart out to build the life they both desired, and he’s bent over backward to shower his wife with affection.
He’s also attuned to her moods, and whenever she’s not acting quite right, he always wants to get to the bottom of what’s making her unhappy.
“I have done my best to give the love I would want to receive: lunches packed with a note, a scavenger hunt, or a love letter left to be found when she gets back from work after a hard day,” he said.
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“It’s not like I buried my head in the sand and said, “This is great.”
He truly thought his wife was his once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to have a love that was so great. Five months ago, they went on vacation to St. Lucia, and it was incredible.
He’s never felt so in love with his wife, but he noticed she was spending a ton of time texting one of her coworkers.
It upset him so much because when he and his wife are spending quality time together, they stay off their devices and get rid of distractions.
After returning home from their trip, his wife hung out with her coworker one day and spent an inordinate amount of time with them. It was then that he knew something more had to be going on between them.
“I confronted her, and she swore up and down that nothing was going on—they were just friends,” he said.
“I couldn’t let it go (bloodhound mode and all). I told her I wanted to see their texts, which is beyond rare for us. I do my best to give her space and privacy. Her face went ghost-white, and she said, “You’re going to find something.”
“Well, I did. That coworker and she were having an emotional affair (or so she says), spicy pics and all. This led to a lot of anguish, and she stayed with a friend for a few nights.”
He cried when his wife left, and he sent her some nasty text messages, too, but he was in turmoil. Here he was, thinking they had an idyllic marriage, and she was out getting frisky with her coworker.
Finally, his wife came home, and they had an open discussion about where things went wrong and how they would commit to fixing their marriage so nothing like this would happen to them in the future.
His wife began going to therapy, and everything evened out in a way that surprised him and made him feel good.
He truly wanted to move on and issue his forgiveness, and from his perspective, it appeared that he and his wife were moving into an era of being even stronger than before.
Their communication got better, and the outlook was sunny. He was committed to making their marriage succeed, even saying he would go to counseling along with his wife.
But yesterday, his wife stepped out to run a couple of errands and blindsided him when she admitted she actually signed a lease on an apartment instead and would be moving out.
He can’t believe she wants out of their marriage without saying a word to him about this first.
“I’m now sitting in our house alone, with our cats and belongings, about to go on a work trip, with the world crashing down on top of me,” he continued.
“My lungs atrophied with the last breath I took during that phone call; the callous way she said she was leaving burned into my brain. Look, I’m not perfect. I deflect pain with bad jokes and can sometimes be overbearing. But…I thought we were going to go the distance. I still want to. I don’t want this to end…”
“Where do I even go from here? Do I plead and beg? Do I accept that there’s nothing I can do to stop this? It’s not like I’m unapproachable. She could have come to me and said anything, and I would have listened and done my best to empathize or sympathize with it.”
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