This 31-year-old woman isn’t going to lie: she has some deep-seated trust issues, and they stem from some terrible situations that happened in her past.
Due to this, she likes to have access to her husband’s different devices so she can snoop, in case there is something concerning to be found.
In August of this year, she got married to her 38-year-old husband, and they have been with one another since July of 2021.
Not too long ago, she decided to go digging through her husband’s email to see what was in there. She wasn’t trying to find anything in particular. She was just poking around.
Hidden away in an obscure sub-folder, she stumped upon a love letter her husband wrote to his ex while they were engaged.
They were six months into their engagement when her husband sent it, and he also attached two different songs on Spotify along with the letter: “Time” by Snoh Aalegra and “Together Again” by Janet Jackson.
In the email, her husband called his ex “my dearest” while apologizing for taking so long to send her a note. He called his ex gorgeous and said the best moments of his life were spent along with her.
“I think about you often and wonder how you are, if you’re ok, and if you’ve received the love that you deserve,” her husband typed.
“I’m sorry that I never told you enough times how important you were to me and how much of my heart you had.”
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“You are one of the best things that will ever happen to me in my life and one of the most important people I have ever known.”
Her husband goes on to say his ex and all of their amazing memories are like nothing else. He jumped into saying sorry for hurting her before admitting he was never deserving of her or her love.
He continued by telling his ex that he will never forget her and that she has a special place in his heart that is “permanent and everlasting.”
He then praised his ex for being so super special to him and pointed out how they shared so many excellent experiences.
“I could write so much more but I’m starting to get a little too emotional thinking of all the time we spent together,” her husband added.
“If you ever want to catch up, you know where to find me. I hope one day to see your face and hear your voice once more.”
“I love you, forever and always.”
Her husband’s ex didn’t immediately respond to him. She waited until his birthday, which is in October, to email him back.
In her reply, she asked if they could meet up in person, and they scheduled a day. Their meeting time coincides with a day when she was away at work.
After more investigating, she figured out her husband apologized to his ex for how their romance ended.
She thought the two had been over years back, but it seems they were still in contact when she walked into her husband’s life and started dating him.
Apparently, his ex found out about her in a surprising way and felt hurt that he moved on.
“I’m pretty upset about this…but should I be?” she wondered. “Is the email that bad? Am I overreacting?”
“Also, I’m not sure what to do…we JUST got married. It was a year ago, but we were engaged. But he actually deleted all of the threads except this one message and hid it…I’m pretty hurt he would say these things to another woman, but maybe it was just a closure thing.”
What advice do you have for her?
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