Her Boyfriend Gave His Number To A Girl On A Plane And Then Started Texting Her
If you take the time to outline your boundaries in a relationship, you’ll never end up regretting it later on. But if we fail to discuss what it is that makes us uncomfortable, it can be hard for our significant others to know if they’re crossing a line.
This 20-year-old girl has a boyfriend the same age as her who recently went away on a trip. While on the plane, a girl sat beside him and they got to chatting.
Her boyfriend and this girl quickly made the connection that they share some friends back in his hometown.
The flight was lengthy, and her boyfriend continued to interact with this girl the entire time. He also gave her his phone number after he sent her a video he took of the plane that she asked to have a copy of.
At one point during the trip, her boyfriend nodded off, then woke up to find this girl snoozing on his shoulder.
He moved, so they were no longer touching, but he kept on being friendly with her when she woke up.
“They ended up talking about personal lives, and he did tell her about me, and that I am someone whom he deeply cares about and loves to be with, so she knew my existence,” she explained.
“After the flight, he messaged her, saying, “I didn’t get to say goodbye. Have a fun trip.”
This was hardly the end, and her boyfriend texted back and forth with this girl, even requesting to see some photos of her trip. Her boyfriend and this girl then began following one another on social media.
Sergey Novikov – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only
Her boyfriend spoke to this girl from the plane for two days before she became aware of their exchanges and demanded to see what he was saying to her.
This girl appeared to be flirting with her boyfriend in the messages, even asking if he wanted to fly home with her, but her boyfriend maintained he was only trying to be friends with her and nothing more.
She made it clear to her boyfriend that she was uneasy with them remaining in contact, and she felt that it was a good time to talk about her boundaries.
It’s been three months since this all happened, but she can’t get over it. It bothers her that her boyfriend didn’t think to set some boundaries with this girl from the plane after she took a nap on his shoulder.
She feels it wasn’t right that he chose to be friends with this girl after that, and she’s upset that he even asked to see videos and photos of her trip when they were no longer on the plane.
“It doesn’t help that I went on this girl’s social media and [found] that all she posts about is hopeless romantic posts, and knowing she had space to romanticize my partner WHILE I’m in a relationship with him triggers me, although it’s not entirely in his control,” she added.
When she saw the messages between her boyfriend and this girl, they totaled around 100 screenshots, so the frequency with which they communicated was uncomfortable to her.
She knows many girls would dump their boyfriends on the spot if they found out they gave their numbers out to another girl.
She didn’t, as she wanted to forgive him and move on. That’s easier said than done since she can’t just get over the girl from the plane.
She’s not worried about her boyfriend doing the same thing in the future, but she can’t get past how rude she feels her boyfriend was being.
“I can see how, to him, this was a mistake, and he has since then changed and learned, and he may deserve grace from the new unprecedented discoveries of our boundaries as a couple,” she continued.
“He is a great person, kind, compassionate, and emotionally intelligent. I don’t think the events [were] a good reflection of character, but I can’t seem to just completely let go of it. I want to know if I’m doing too much by continuing to hold resentment and a grudge or if something is genuinely wrong.”
What advice do you have for her?
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