He Finally Told His Son That He Divorced His Mom After She Lost Attraction To Him Over An Amputation And Started Dating Another Man
Eight years ago, this 45-year-old man and his 43-year-old wife got a divorce. But ten years ago, he had to have his right arm amputated following a freak accident.
He and his son were at his brother’s mechanic shop that day, and his son was playing along with his cousin.
The ball they had rolled underneath an unstable lifted truck without wheels on. As soon as his son went under the car looking for the ball, he rushed to pull him out. At that exact moment, the truck crashed to the floor and crushed his arm.
“After that, all I remember was blinding pain and hearing my son crying while my brother ran toward me. Long story short, I lost my arm,” he explained.
“The months after were a whirlwind. I was healing from the amputation, lost my job, became depressed, and both my son and I went through a lot of therapy.”
“It took a lot of work, but we pulled through. By that time, my now ex-wife was the breadwinner. It took a lot out of her—she was very tired, but she was very supportive and loving. Within a year, my brother got me a job at his best friend’s company as a customer service rep.”
He and his ex-wife weren’t in a bad spot back then, and she was able to quit working that second job when he started his job.
Several months later, his ex started to pull away from him, and she no longer seemed that interested, which he knew was because of his amputation.
Six months into his ex treating him coldly, he had a serious conversation with her and asked to go to therapy.
Marco – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
Instead of being interested in that, his ex admitted that she was no longer attracted to him due to his amputation and requested a divorce.
“I asked if there was another man, and she said no, but I didn’t believe her,” he said. “I asked to see her phone, and after some back-and-forth, she gave it to me.”
“I found out that she had been heavily communicating with a family friend of my ex in-laws. They were going on dates and expressing feelings for each other. She told me they hadn’t been physical, but I was done at that point. I didn’t want to save the marriage.”
“We told family and friends that we were getting divorced. Only family knew about the emotional affair, and there was a lot of backlash against her. She said she couldn’t control her feelings.”
The divorce was pretty simple. His wife purchased his share of their home, and he moved in with his brother and his brother’s wife.
The custody issue was a bit difficult since he’s disabled, but his family and friends stepped in to help him out, and ever since, he gets his son for a week, and then his son goes to his ex for a week.
This all leads us to now: his ex is married to that man she had an emotional affair with, and they tied the knot a year ago.
A month and a half back, his son finally approached him, wanting to know why he got divorced from his mom.
“Before that, I had always dodged the question by saying that sometimes adults just can’t be together,” he continued.
“But this time, my niece (his cousin) told him the real reason, and he wanted confirmation. I don’t know how she knew, but I didn’t want to lie to my son, so I confirmed that it was true.”
“Four days later, my ex called me crying, asking why I told our son. I explained that it wasn’t me—it was his cousin, and I only confirmed it. I told her that I didn’t want to lie to him. She said he was rebelling against her and his stepdad, saying a lot of hurtful things because of me. My son loves his mom and stepdad, so this was completely extreme.”
His son has always looked up to him as a hero, and he even did a school project on him, which fills him with pride to think about.
He believes that any respect his son had for his mom and his stepdad has vanished in light of him learning the truth.
His son is furious, and last week, his son said he no longer wishes to live with his mom. Instead, he wants to be with him full-time.
He promised his son that he would not make him do anything he didn’t want to do, and he then contacted his ex to fill her in.
His ex feels like he’s been somehow planning to steal their son away from her, even though that’s not the case.
“She told family and friends, and now I’m getting nasty calls from them,” he added. “I keep telling her to give him space and let him process his feelings and that I will talk to him.”
“Now my son doesn’t want to live with his mom. I suggested therapy, but he doesn’t want to go because he associates it with the time when he saw his father lose his arm.”
He’s left wondering if it was wrong of him not to lie to his son about the reason he and his ex got divorced.
What do you think?
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