“My wedding is months away, and I’m finding it really hard to believe that my friend knows that far in advance,” she admitted.
“Two others have also said they’re not going to stay for the reception as they ‘will be tired by then.'”
However, she didn’t hit her breaking point until she sent a link to her wedding registry in their group chat, and her friends’ responses left her shell-shocked.
To be clear, she and her fiancé already have a home together, so they did not put any big-ticket items on the registry. Rather, they included smaller presents that all cost $50 or less.
Well, once she shared the registry with her friends, they replied that they’d all be chipping in to buy her an air fryer as a “group gift.”
The problem with this is the air fryer only costs $40, meaning her friends would be chipping in merely $8 each.
“Over the years, I must have spent thousands of dollars on their weddings, two of which were overseas. I have attended dinners and brunches to celebrate their job promotions and bought gifts for their babies, all the while feeling terrible about myself watching my friends celebrate the happiness I never thought I’d get,” she explained.
That’s why she was so hurt by her friends’ lack of effort for her own special day, and she decided to text back in their group chat – asking for clarification on whether they’d just be buying the one gift together.
One of her friends didn’t appreciate her question, either, and actually asked if she was calling the group “cheap.” Since then, their chat has been dead silent, too.
“That really wasn’t my intention, but it really feels like because I’m last, they’re just over having to do these events, and it’s really feeding into my insecurity about getting married so late,” she vented.
At the same time, she realizes her friends do have busy lives, children, and perhaps not as much disposable income as when they were younger.
