This 27-year-old woman’s older sister, Emily, who’s 30, will be tying the knot soon. But, ever since she found out her ex-fiancé Brad was invited to the event, she’s been thinking about skipping the wedding.
She and Brad were together for five years when he actually cheated on her with a mutual friend two years ago. Once she found out about his infidelity, they broke up, and she was devastated for a while.
“It was a whole mess, and honestly, I still haven’t fully recovered,” she said.
During their relationship, though, Brad and her sister were really quite close. So, following the split, Emily remained in contact with him – which she wasn’t thrilled about, quite frankly. Nonetheless, she realized that was her sister’s choice to make.
What she didn’t expect was for Brad to land an invite to her sister’s big day, and when she heard about that last week through their cousin, she immediately confronted Emily.
She gave her sister a call and asked if it was true, and Emily acted extremely casual about the entire thing.
“Oh, yeah, I invited him. He’s still part of my life, and I didn’t think it would be a big deal. Plus, you’ve both moved on, right?” her sister replied.
Well, she just can’t fathom running into Brad at the ceremony. He hurt her beyond belief. They were planning their future together when she discovered he’d been cheating on her for almost half of their relationship.
“it completely broke me. I’ve done a lot of work to heal, but seeing him, especially at such a big event like my sister’s wedding, feels like a slap in the face,” she admitted.
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That’s why she tried to tell her sister that she simply wouldn’t feel comfortable with Brad there, and perhaps surprisingly, her sister didn’t seem to care.
Emily actually claimed it was her wedding and that she needed to get over it. Her sister proceeded to say that Brad wasn’t attending to hurt her and that seeing him would be “good closure” after two years.
She had no idea how to respond to her sister, either, so she wound up telling Emily that she needed some time to think.
Now she is currently in a new relationship with her boyfriend. After talking to him, as well as some of her close friends, she realized that she just couldn’t be at Emily’s nuptials if her ex-fiancé were there.
“I’m not going to the wedding. I love my sister, but this feels like a betrayal, and I don’t want to ruin her day by having a panic attack or causing a scene,” she reasoned.
Yet, unfortunately, the rest of her family doesn’t understand where she’s coming from. Her mom believes she’s acting selfish, and while her dad is staying out of it, she can tell he is disappointed in her.
Her brother got involved as well and texted her that the day was supposed to be about Emily, not her.
“I get it, but I also feel like I’m being asked to sacrifice my own mental well-being for the sake of someone who hasn’t even considered how hard this is for me,” she vented.
Regardless, with practically all of her relatives against her on this, she’s not sure if missing her sister’s wedding really would make her a jerk.
Would you also be furious if your ex was invited? Should she feel pressured to attend?
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