She’s Divorcing Her Husband Because He’s Always Putting His Career Over Their Marriage, And She Doesn’t Believe He’ll Actually Change
There are always going to be outside forces trying to demand our attention – from friends and family to work and personal interests. However, when you tie the knot and make a commitment to your significant other, shouldn’t your marriage always come first?
This woman thought so, which is why her husband prioritizing his career over their relationship has really rubbed her the wrong way.
For some context, back when they wed, they both had big career ambitions. Even so, they promised to put each other first, no matter what.
“In the beginning, things were great. We supported each other’s professional goals, and there was a good balance between our work and personal lives,” she recalled.
Then, as time continued on, she watched as her husband became consumed by his job.
All of a sudden, he was taking on more responsibilities at the office. That caused him to begin working later nights, taking weekend meetings, and traveling on important dates – like anniversaries and holidays.
It wasn’t just his physical absence, though, that upset her. It was also his lack of emotional involvement in their relationship whenever they were together.
“I’ve tried talking to him about it, but he always brushes it off, saying he’s doing it all for our future,” she detailed.
She realizes that he values building his career, and she doesn’t think that’s a bad thing. But she can’t stand the fact that their marriage has taken the backseat and become an “afterthought.”
Drobot Dean – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
She doesn’t want to feel like she comes in second place anymore, so after years of putting up with it, she’s done. More specifically, she has recently begun considering filing for divorce.
“I need someone who values me and our relationship as much as I value them, and I’m no longer sure if that person is my husband,” she reasoned.
Yet, while she seemingly made her feelings clear over the years, her husband was still shocked when she brought up divorce. He claimed to have never realized just how unhappy she was and swore that he’d change.
“But I’ve heard that before. I don’t want to spend the rest of my life waiting for him to prioritize our marriage,” she vented.
Nonetheless, before she officially calls it quits, she’s not sure if leaving her husband because he’s been neglectful is enough to justify a split.
Does she deserve someone who puts her first? Is divorce the only answer, or should they try counseling? What would you do?
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