Katharina Buczek
This 26-year-old woman has spent eight years of her life attending dental school in order to have the career of her dreams. Yet, now that she is finally finished, her 28-year-old husband expects her to be a stay-at-home mom.
For some context, they first met as teenagers and have been married for five years. They’ve also discussed starting a family together on multiple occasions, as well as how childcare would work for their future family.
During these conversations, she and her husband both agreed on sending their kids to daycare once they reached 2 years old and private school thereafter.
“I’ve expressed that though I think stay-at-home moms are literal superheroes, it’s not something that I’m interested in,” she recalled.
“I’m a very career-driven woman, and the thought of taking care of four (yes, we want 4) kids all day, every day, with literally no break and not being financially independent does not sound appealing to me.”
She’d even told her husband that he was welcome to become a stay-at-home dad if he wanted, and she thought they were on the same page. They’d had this discussion years ago, and she believed that was the end of it.
However, after she graduated from dental school around a year ago, things changed. First, she got a job working at her dream office, and she is over the moon. She’d fantasized about this ever since she was a young girl, and she’d put so much effort into achieving her goal.
This also means that she and her husband are currently ready to start trying for their very first baby. Yet, before that could happen, her husband brought up childcare again.
Out of the blue, he asked if she would be “okay” with quitting her job. She was genuinely confused and figured he was referencing maternity leave.
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