Along with their wedding day, many women spend a lot of time daydreaming about their marriage proposal. Whether it’s big and romantic or small and sentimental, most brides-to-be have an idea of how they’d like their partner to ask for their hand.
Unfortunately, planning out every detail of a moment that’s out of your control can set you up for disappointment when it finally happens.
And what do you do in the event that you don’t like how you were proposed to?
Determine What You Didn’t Like
What is it about your proposal that left you feeling disappointed? Was it something that you will likely get over in time or something that will require a conversation with your partner in order to move past?
For example, if you specifically asked your partner to ask for your father’s blessing or to be sure to hire a photographer for the proposal, and it didn’t happen, maybe it’s worth talking to your partner about.
But if a smaller aspect disappointed you, that your partner would have never known you wanted, then perhaps it’s best to let it go.
It’s Okay If It Wasn’t Like The Movies
Rom-coms and the internet have a way of romanticizing proposals up to the nines, showcasing them as extravagantly planned out moments that are straight out of a fairytale.
Drobot Dean – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual people
In reality, proposals aren’t always this extreme, and it’s better to realize this now than in your disappointment after the fact.
Your proposal can be just as romantic in a simple and personal sense, which will hold sentimental meaning for you and your partner for years to come.
Don’t Spend Time Worrying About What Could Have Been
It’s easy to sit and think about what could have been, even after such a romantic moment. What if they had proposed in Europe instead of Hawaii?
What if they had included your family instead of making it just you two, or even sang their proposal instead of speaking it?
Whatever it is that you had dreamt about before, you will likely still wonder about it. However, there is no sense in trying to reconfigure the moment after it’s already happened.
It happened exactly how it was supposed to, so now it’s time to appreciate all the little details your partner included that maybe you would have never thought of.
Get Excited About What’s To Come
Accepting your partner’s proposal is the first step toward the rest of your life together! If you didn’t love how your proposal went, focus on how you’re going to plan the wedding and how you’re going to spend your marriage.
There are so many more aspects to prepare that your options are limitless.
Allow yourself to enjoy being engaged by not focusing on your least favorite details of the proposal. Celebrate with your partner, friends, and family!
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