This man is currently married, but about three years ago, he sadly lost his mother-in-law. So, on the anniversary of her death each year, he and his wife visit his mother-in-law’s grave.
“My wife was very close with her mother. She leaves flowers on the grave and sits on the bench for hours, and I do my best to provide support for her and just hold her,” he detailed.
But, this year, the death anniversary just so happens to be on his sister’s wedding day, and his wife actually wants him to skip the nuptials to visit the cemetery with her.
For a bit of background, his sister is set to tie the knot next month, and a while ago, he was asked to be her Man of Honor. He was also thrilled to accept the role despite it not being a huge shock.
“It didn’t really surprise me when she asked me to be her Man of Honor since we were always very close growing up, especially because our father was emotionally abusive. We are now no contact with our father,” he recalled.
Anyway, he was genuinely ecstatic that his sister was engaged and truly was looking forward to her big day. Well, that was until he received a “Save the Date” in the mail a few months ago and realized the nuptials were on the same day as his mother-in-law’s passing.
He knew his sister wouldn’t be able to move the entire event to a different date over this. After all, she’d already booked a super popular wedding venue, and the date she chose also held sentimental meaning in her own life.
He tried talking to his wife about it, too, and she wound up asking if he could skip his sister’s wedding to visit his mother-in-law’s grave with her instead.
He felt torn over what to do after that, and he confided in his sister – who was obviously upset. She really wanted him to be there when she walked down the aisle.
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Yet, rather than getting mad, like many people would, his sister just tried to accommodate him.
“She was even willing to postpone the wedding to the next available slot for the venue, which was next year, so that I could attend the wedding,” he revealed.
“However, I realized that this was really unfair to my sister.”
That’s why he ultimately made the decision to attend his sister’s big day and filled his wife in on this as well.
“I really sympathize with her, but I have known my sister my whole life, and I wanted to be there for her wedding,” he vented.
While his wife accepted his choice, though, she still seemed pretty sad, and now, he’s not sure if picking his sister’s nuptials over his mother-in-law’s death anniversary was wrong.
Is his sister’s wedding a once-in-a-lifetime event? At the same time, could he still visit his mother-in-law’s grave and remember her on another day? Did he make the right decision?
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