Supporting his girlfriend and their future children is an enormous burden, and should he ever get laid off, it will risk their whole family’s security.
While he acknowledges that he makes enough to support a family, he wants a certain “quality of life” that will no longer be attainable.
“I know being a SAHM is a full-time job on its own, but I also know it tapers off as the child ages, [and] the workload gets reduced,” he added.
“I tried to compromise by asking if she could find a WFH job (easily doable in her industry) or part-time job after 3-5 years, but she got upset, saying the choice on if or when to go back should be hers.”
“This choice heavily impacts my life, too; shouldn’t I have some say in this? I completely respect that she wants to be SAHM and want her to for at least a few years, but she makes it seem like she’s a martyr for this decision and won’t let me provide my input. How can I get her to have a meaningful discussion with me so we can compromise instead of it being one-sided?”
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