This 27-year-old guy is currently in a relationship, and he and his girlfriend, who’s 26, have been planning to go on a romantic getaway to reconnect, relax, and spend some quality time together.
They’ve both been very overwhelmed at work lately, and he thought going away would give them a great opportunity to take a step back from all of the chaos.
“I’ve tried to make this as perfect a vacation for her as possible, even picking up extra shifts to cover the costs,” he explained.
But then, just a few days ago, his girlfriend threw a major wrench in their plans. She casually brought up how she was also going to bring one of her female coworkers on the trip as well.
To clarify, he knows his girlfriend’s coworker and thinks the woman is nice. However, they don’t have much in common, and having another person join is obviously going to change the “tone” of their getaway.
That’s why he was taken aback by the whole idea, especially since they’d never discussed inviting anyone else.
His girlfriend, on the other hand, believed the trip would be good for her coworker – who’d been having a tough time with her family.
“I can understand that. Of course, I’d like to accommodate her as much as possible,” he explained.
“But to me, it’s really weird that she didn’t tell me before just inviting her friend, as it’d mean we’d have to change some of our plans.”
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He tried telling his girlfriend that, too, yet rather than understanding where he was coming from, she got “in his face” about the situation.
He didn’t want to deal with the drama, either, and eventually, he claimed that they should just cancel their vacation altogether. After all, it’s no longer anything like he had in mind.
“It’d feel weird for me to spend what was supposed to be sort of a romantic getaway with a third wheel,” he reasoned.
Still, his girlfriend disagrees and thinks it’s no big deal if her coworker joins. She even accused him of being selfish and attempted to guilt-trip him into changing his mind.
He refused to budge, though, and pointed out how, by staying home, his girlfriend could just help her coworker navigate the family issues.
Well, she’s been upset ever since, saying that he’s being avoidant by canceling the vacation. Meanwhile, he doesn’t feel like any of his opinions are being taken into account.
This tension has now left him wondering whether calling off the trip is really so unreasonable or not.
How would you feel if your partner planned to bring a third wheel on your romantic getaway? Is it understandable why he doesn’t want to go anymore?
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