Bre Avery Zacharski
He was afraid to acknowledge everything was coming apart for him. Then people began to ask why his wife had no problem with him seeing other women, and he said she really didn’t mind.
For years, it all continued on this path until he had to go abroad for a second time. There, he reconnected with one of his old girlfriends, and when he came home, he began to really show interest in her.
His old girlfriend gave him back what he had lost with his wife. His old girlfriend had recently gotten out of a serious relationship and wasn’t cool with him still having a wife, so they stopped seeing one another. He understands why she wanted space, but it deeply hurt him.
“She told me several times how much it messed her up seeing me with my wife, how weird it felt being able to see and sleep with me…,” he added.
“I tried to connect the dots as to why the breakup hurt and realized some of it was what I was craving for with my spouse since she had now invested many years into this other girl and was staying there 2-3 times a week and obviously in love with her.”
He then had a very candid conversation with his wife on the same day his old girlfriend dumped him, and his wife revealed she felt jealous of his old girlfriend.
He told his wife he was envious of her own girlfriend, and he said that while he wasn’t asking his wife to ditch this girl, he was asking her to take his feelings into consideration.
His wife exited their conversation and spent the night with her girlfriend, but not before he mentioned to his wife he felt emotionally crushed by the state of their marriage.
He and his wife then invested more into one another and attempted to save their marriage. But his wife refused to allow him to sit down with her girlfriend and have a group chat, stating they’re going to be breaking up soon.
His wife says she needs time to detach from her girlfriend, so that’s why she’s not dumping her now, but he doubts she will get dumped at all because his wife has done this before.
Right now, he feels like his wife has pushed him aside for so long, leaving him craving attention, that he no longer feels like he’s in love with his wife.
