Last year, this 23-year-old girl met her 25-year-old boyfriend at a party while she was in New York City.
Her boyfriend came across as a super handsome, normal guy. They went out on several dates while she was still in the city.
After she flew home, they remained in contact, and she could tell he liked her far more than she liked him.
He then asked her to officially be his girlfriend, and she said sure, figuring she had nothing to lose. That’s how their long-distance relationship began, but throughout the first several weeks of their dating, she could tell her boyfriend had made up his mind that he was going to marry her one day.
She never agreed to be his future wife, but he would constantly want to talk about marriage. He would discuss what their kids would look like and what their names would be.
He then wanted to meet her mom and dad, and he told his own family all about her. She even met his friends.
While this was all going on, she chose not to tell her family about him since she was not down for a super-serious relationship.
Her boyfriend wouldn’t listen to her and doubled down on his vision for their future. She finally had to tell him that she would not marry him or have kids with him, and she would never allow him to meet her loved ones. He still didn’t believe her and played it off like some kind of joke.
One day she FaceTimed her boyfriend while sitting in her car, and she drives a Porsche convertible. As soon as her boyfriend noticed her car, he demanded to know whose car she was driving.
Nick Starichenko – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
“I told him it was mine and that it was a gift from my parents,” she explained. “He was shocked to learn that I came from a privileged background. He was so shaken by this news that he didn’t speak to me for days after this conversation.”
“His entire personality toward me changed after that. He started telling me that he makes thousands of dollars a day doing online trading, but he didn’t want to tell me sooner [because] he didn’t want things to be weird between us.”
“I was like “cool, good for you,” because I genuinely didn’t care. He also revealed that he pays rent for two apartments, one in NYC and one in Miami. I said, “That’s wasteful. Why would you do that?” and he said, “[because] I can.” He started posting on all of his public social media pages screenshots of the money he’s making doing day trading, and it really does look like he’s making 20k+ a week.”
Several months later, he organized a Miami vacation for them since her boyfriend really wanted to show her his apartment.
He booked her flights and maintained that she didn’t have to pay for anything for the four days they would be there together.
She had a blast in Miami, and anything she wanted to do, her boyfriend paid for. The only red flag for her was that his apartment seemed to be an Airbnb since there were no personal belongings.
After their vacation was over, they went back to being long-distance. In the weeks that followed, she got wrapped up with graduate school and other things in her life, so she stopped texting or calling her boyfriend a lot.
This infuriated her boyfriend, who began insisting she was seeing other guys while “taking advantage of him.”
She was puzzled as this came out of left field. What confused her the most, though, is that her boyfriend claimed she was nothing but a “burden” on him financially.
He asked if she realized how expensive she is, while throwing it in her face that he spent over $10,000 on her for the Miami trip.
He called her “a money sinkhole” and said that clearly, nothing he does for her is ever good enough.
“All I could think was, 10k isn’t a big deal when you make 60k+ a month,” she continued. “And it’s not like we were going on helicopter rides in Miami. How on earth did we spend 10k?”
“The math isn’t matching. I had so many questions. Is he lying [about] how much he makes? The timing of his “secret income” felt a bit too convenient.”
“I’m honestly exhausted with dealing with his constant arguments. I’m considering leaving him over this, but I would like to know the truth first. What’s the best approach?”
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