In just three weeks, this 31-year-old woman is getting married to her 30-year-old fiancé, and they have been together for close to a decade.
Last October, he proposed, and she really wanted to have a fast engagement, as she feels the weight of getting older.
She was afraid to come across as really old in her wedding photos, and that’s why she was in a hurry to get to the altar.
In anticipation of her wedding, she’s been putting a lot of effort into her appearance so she looks her best.
She’s been regularly going to the gym and bumping up her skincare routine. She used to weigh 145 pounds, but she dropped ten pounds and now looks fit.
“I’ve been feeling really great about myself and the way I look and confident,” she explained. “A couple [of] weeks [ago], out of curiosity, I asked my fiancé if he had a type because I had seen someone ask that on a TV show, realized I had never asked him and was curious.”
He reassured her that she is his ideal woman, he loves her, and finds her gorgeous. Then yesterday they were watching a show together.
One female character in the show had a sleeve of tattoos, and her fiancé mentioned that she should get one, too.
He has brought this up on multiple occasions in the past, and she knows that he’s attracted to tatted ladies.
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From there, her fiancé began to act in a weird way. Any time this TV character would do something in the show that she didn’t agree with, her fiancé would vehemently defend the girl.
“He has been doing this in other scenarios where he plays ‘devil’s advocate,’ and I get really flustered because I don’t feel like my opinion is being heard; it’s like he’s trying to argue the other side or debate,” she said.
“I think I’m a relatively attractive woman and have experienced plenty of times where men defend women solely on the fact that they’re pretty. I eventually asked if he found the woman attractive and he said yes that he likes her aesthetic and then went off to name a bunch of things he liked about her that is the opposite of what I look like (blonde hair, blue eyes, lots of tattoos and a rock and roll girl kind of vibe).”
“He said that she was his type and referenced me asking a couple [of] weeks ago, and he said he had a chance to think about it. I asked if I was his type, and he said no, but that he still finds me beautiful and that he loves me.”
What makes this even more upsetting for her is that she knows the girl her fiancé dated right before her was his type: blonde with tattoos and blue eyes.
She pointed this out to her fiancé, and he maintained that personality is something he values, not just looks, and his ex had a bad personality.
Even though she’s not his type, he isn’t interested in canceling their upcoming wedding and very much so wants to go through with everything.
Sadly, that hardly makes her feel better about this candid conversation regarding the type of girl he finds attractive.
“I’m not really sure what to do because my spirit is absolutely crushed,” she continued. “I feel ugly. I’m heartbroken. I feel alone and like I have no one to talk to.”
What advice do you have for her?
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