Her Boyfriend Won’t Propose To Her Until He Has Loads Of Money, But He Will Have Kids With Her
For nearly 12 years now, this 32-year-old woman has been with her 37-year-old boyfriend. Her boyfriend works his hardest to have the career of his dreams, and due to that, they have been long-distance for the last five or six years.
Her boyfriend puts in the time to come see her, but because of finances and a few other reasons, they are not living with one another at the moment.
She admits that she and her boyfriend have encountered highs and lows throughout their relationship, but it’s no different from anyone else. They have the maturity to move forward, and they are truly happy to be with one another.
“We had a serious conversation today because we are getting older,” she explained. “He wants to have children, not planned but sort of; if they come, they come.”
She informed her boyfriend that she wants to get married before having children with him, that way she can be an “honest woman.”
But her boyfriend surprised her by saying he wants to wait until he has loads of money, and then he will propose to her.
It’s important to him to be able to purchase an enormous engagement ring, throw a huge engagement party, and then have an over-the-top wedding.
He wants everything to be bigger and better. She knows that’s generous and romantic of him, but that’s not what she has in mind for their future.
She would prefer to get married in her backyard and have a plain gold band as her engagement and wedding ring. To her, that is ideal, and she’s never been the kind of girl to dream about or plan her wedding.
halayalex – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
“So, his response at the end was that it was not as important to him as it was for me to get married, and he isn’t looking to get married or propose anytime soon unless he’s been successful and has lots of money,” she added.
Her boyfriend pointed out that children should be their priority instead of a wedding since they’re not getting any younger.
However, kids require money, and a fair amount of it, so she doesn’t quite get his reasoning. Why not wait for both if money is the one hang-up?
Additionally, she feels like if a man really wants to get married to a woman, they don’t drag their feet.
“It doesn’t matter how little they have in their pockets; that man knows when he wants that woman by his side,” she continued.
“And when those men know, they ask those women in no time and marry them. I’ve personally known men who have asked in month(s) time, including my own parents.”
“He has recited several times the first 3 years of our relationship that I had potential; nothing was ever said since then until today.”
What advice do you have for her?
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