He Left His Girlfriend Of Six Years After He Proposed To Her Twice, And She Said No To Marrying Him Both Times
This 41-year-old man and his girlfriend, who’s 39, were together for almost six years, and he thought their relationship was great.
So, around two years ago, he spoke to his girlfriend’s family and friends about wanting to ask her to marry him.
He got their blessing and well wishes and planned to pop the question while they were all on a family vacation.
Then, on the night of the proposal, he attempted to make everything as perfect and memorable as possible. He wound up asking for his girlfriend’s hand in marriage following a nice dinner while they were surrounded by all of her family members.
But, to his surprise, she didn’t say yes. Rather, she just replied, “No, not yet, anyway.”
“I was quite hurt, honestly, and went back to our room to think things out and not overreact,” he recalled.
A couple of hours later, his girlfriend also showed up at their room and asked what was wrong. This sparked a long discussion about his feelings and why his girlfriend turned down his proposal.
He found out that she didn’t think he was ready for that sort of commitment at the time.
“So I took her thoughts to heart and informed her I understand her reasoning. However, I was raised in a way where ‘you take a no for a no, not a maybe next time,'” he detailed.
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Regardless of that, his girlfriend just asked if he could wait a little while longer until they were in a more “stable place,” and he was okay with that.
About eight months later, he believed it was finally time, too. Apparently, his girlfriend started dropping hints that she was ready to tie the knot – saying things like “I can’t wait for our wedding. Our wedding is going to be spectacular,” and, “I am so looking forward to my dad walking me down the aisle.”
He still waited until just over a year passed since his first proposal, and at that point, he popped the question again.
That time, he decided to do it more privately – with just him and his girlfriend there after a great date night.
Once he opened the engagement ring box, though, his girlfriend just became silent and denied him for a second time. She simply replied, “No, not yet… maybe a little more down the line.”
“After this second refusal, I fell out of love with her. It sounds cold, but it was the truth,” he admitted.
Upon arriving home that evening, he went to sleep in their guest bedroom alone and reflected on their relationship all night.
And the following morning, when his girlfriend asked why he’d slept separately from her, he came clean about his feelings. He also claimed that they needed to split up.
“I informed her that I take marriage very seriously, and I do not want to be led on. And this time, this no was the final no on the subject,” he revealed.
He proceeded to give his girlfriend one month to find a new place and move out. Still, in the wake of their breakup, all of her friends and family members haven’t stopped sending him furious texts and emails.
They are calling him a heartless jerk and believe he should give his girlfriend “more time.”
“My friends have my back on this and understand why I ended the relationship,” he vented.
Even so, he’s now been left wondering if leaving his girlfriend over the two denied proposals really was the wrong thing to do.
Why do you think his girlfriend wants to wait if they’ve already been together for six years? Did he have a right to leave her?
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