This 40-year-old man and his wife, who’s also 40, have been married for 14 years. Yet, he only recently found out that she cheated on him 16 years ago, before they tied the knot.
For some context, he and his wife were actually high school sweethearts. Then, they wed in 2010.
But, while they were engaged in 2010 and already had a 2-year-old daughter together, she cheated on him with another guy – sleeping with him twice. To make matters even worse, that other guy was also still married and going through a divorce.
“I always suspected something between them because his friend and my wife worked together, [hence] how they met,” he recalled.
That’s why, over time, whenever the guy’s name came up in conversation or they’d run into him in public, he would bring up his concerns. In those instances, his wife would always downplay her relationship with the guy and straight-up deny any cheating.
“She would tell me that he tried to talk to her and etc., but she would turn him down and put him in his place,” he detailed.
“So I always took her word for it, but I never liked the guy because of it.”
However, around two weeks ago, the truth finally came tumbling out. It all began while he and his wife were out to eat, and they saw the same guy again.
For some reason, he also couldn’t get his lingering suspicions out of his mind for the rest of his meal.
annanahabed – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
This pushed him to ask his wife about the guy, and for the first time, she actually owned up to kissing him twice before they were officially engaged.
After his wife supposedly came clean, he thought that was the extent of it. Spoiler alert: it wasn’t.
Just a few days later, he still wasn’t able to let the thought of his wife cheating on him go. He wound up asking her for more information, and she ultimately admitted that she and the guy hadn’t just kissed.
Instead, they had slept together twice – once after she got off of work one day and another time during her lunch break.
Ever since discovering the truth, he’s been left feeling heartbroken, and he has no idea what to do from here.
“She told me this is the only time that she cheated on me, and I believe her,” he vented.
“We have had 14 years of wonderful marriage, but right now, I am not trying to hear it.”
How would you feel if you learned your spouse was lying to you throughout your entire marriage? Would you be able to look at them the same way? How do you suggest he handles this?
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