For five years, this 31-year-old man dated his 30-year-old wife, and then they got married. Now, he comes from modest beginnings, whereas his wife was spoiled growing up. He's more ambitious than his wife is, and she has always held a deep-seated hatred for work, but she knew she had to aspire to something in order for them to progress in life. They both have great careers, and they make excellent money, considering how young they are. A year ago, his wife's great-aunt passed away, and she was a very cheap woman who never ended up getting married. They then learned his wife's great-aunt invested her money wisely for years, which meant she had an enormous amount of assets. "To our shock, my wife was left [with] a 7-figure trust in the will," he explained. "Naturally, we both see this as life-changing." "We can now finally afford to buy a nice house near the city and have it paid off, which is what her aunt intended it for in the will. Amazing! Right? Being from the background that I come from, I had never seen this type of money before." "I saw the blessing that it was, but I also saw the potential dark side of it in how it could influence my wife’s perspective. She’s never struggled in life and very much has a sense of entitlement to her, despite her many great qualities." Sadly, he was right about the sheer amount of money poisoning his wife. It didn't take long for his wife to start using her money as an excuse to no longer put any effort into their lives. Soon, she's planning on quitting her job in order to be an unemployed housewife. They do not have any children, so his wife will just be sitting around at home all day. [caption id="attachment_327819" align="alignnone" width="596"] Ulia Koltyrina - stock.adobe.com - illustrative purposes only, not the actual person[/caption] Sign up for Chip Chick's newsletter and get stories like this delivered to your inbox. His wife also wants him to spend the money he still has to work super hard for on all of the things she wants for her new, outlandishly expensive style of living. For instance, his wife put $40,000 on one of their credit cards in the last six months, purchasing makeup, getting her hair done, going out to dinner with her friends, and buying things online. "When I push back on her quitting her career just to be lazy at home and expect me to pay for all of her lavish expenditures, she immediately hits back with "I’ve done my part. I used my trust to eliminate our mortgage. You should be thanking me," he added. "She acts as if her use of this trust that she was gifted is somehow this heroic symbol of her generosity and hard-fought contribution to our lives." His wife behaves like she has had to live through many hardships in order to get her money, and he somehow owes her for the remainder of his life. Not only is his wife wildly arrogant, but she no longer wants to communicate with him in a healthy way. If he tries to address being responsible with their finances, his wife brings up how she made it possible for them to not have a mortgage, and she throws her trust in his face, too. "Additionally, it’s destroying my attraction to her," he added. "I’m not turned on by someone whose only ambition in life is to be a lazy piece of [junk] and watch Bravo all day and shop online." "Seriously, I’m the one who also does the dishes, our laundry, house maintenance, coordinating literally every adult task, pay[ing] the bills, etc. She’ll vacuum, but that’s it. She doesn’t even go to the gym or go out and enjoy the outdoors." "It’s just Bravo, online shopping, and dining out. Hence, I truly fear the slug she will become without her job to keep her occupied." "Our marriage is becoming me, the adult, and her, my child. This trust has been the world’s craziest blessing but also the biggest curse. I’m about to lose my mind, and IDK what to do." What advice do you have for him? You can read the original post on Reddit here.
